As time passes, the relationship gets more complicated and challenging. It also gets more beautiful and amazing when you find someone you’re compatible with. But you must respect each other; without work and communication, it won’t. Here are lessons I learned the hard way.

Lessons I wished I had learned about women sooner

1. Don’t date someone with a low self-esteem. When someone has low self-esteem, it will manifest in unhealthy ways. You don’t want to be the collateral damage in their inability to love themselves.
2. Kindness is better than pretty. I’m not saying that you should be with somebody who is unattractive. Still, even if someone is super sassy and banging, their moral compass and integrity are more important. If you’re interested in somebody who is using their body or looking for a job or money, be careful because this can be tied to self-esteem. Unfortunately, our society gives pretty people a pass. But remember that appearance is a depreciating asset and will fade.
3. Ditch those who are lazy. You should only be with her if she has a good work ethic. A good work ethic benefits your relationship because good relationships take hard work. Both people need to be willing to do the work to be successful. If she’s lazy, she won’t put in the time.
4. Run if she’s a cheater. Once you find out she cheated, run the hell away. Don’t accept apologies or let her talk her way back even though it’s painful. You didn’t fail as a man. There’s no amount of love that you can give somebody who’s fundamentally broken like a cheater. Cheating is not preventable, and you need to stand up for yourself.
5. You have to be happy with yourself. You will not be happy in a relationship until you’re happy with yourself. Often, people will bounce from relationship to relationship when the issue is themselves not making themselves a priority. Build yourself into the man you want to be first. Get the pieces falling into place, and deal with the baggage you have carried from your childhood or past relationships. Therapy is a gift that you give yourself. You deserve to be happy. Get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp therapy and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
6. She doesn’t allow you to have friends or your own life. Your girlfriend should accept that you have your own life and friends. Being with somebody who understands it’s okay to have friends is critical. You are not supposed to morph into one unit in a relationship or a couple. You should have your own goals, dreams, and friends.
7. She has only guy friends, which is a red flag. If guys surround her and she doesn’t have girlfriends, there’s a reason. It’s not normal.
8. She has substance abuse issues or is a bad drunk. It won’t get any better, so run away. It’s not your responsibility to save her. Men like to be the hero, but it’s impossible. If someone is not willing to do the work themselves, there’s nothing that you can do.
9. She disrespects you. (a) You should not be with her if she puts you down, talks down to you, makes fun of you or fights dirty. These are monstrous red flags, and it will not get any better. (b) She keeps you from your family. A relationship is a bad idea if she tries to keep you from seeing your family, and it’s even worse if she has a bad relationship with her family.
10. She tells you who she is. You better listen and not think that you can change them. Also, a relationship is a commitment, and it is not advisable if you have different views on politics, religion, and other topics. Further, you’re not on the same page sexually (not wanting a physical relationship or using sex as a weapon), this is a warning sign to get out. You need to be on the same page.

Thirty-Day Plan Out of the Friend Zone

• Avoid this person for 30 days. Ghost her completely, and don’t post anything on social media. Create space. Stop being readily available. Don’t always be there.
• Dress better and modify your style. Ensure your clothing fits, and buy strategic items (jeans, T-shirt, jacket, underwear). Get rid of the little boy underwear and upgrade to Sheath. Enjoy a special 20% discount on your total order. The code is automatically applied when you click the link. But if it does not work, use code alpha2024 at checkout.
• Up your grooming game. Grow your facial hair, get a better haircut, fix your face with a solid skincare routine, bleach your teeth, get a new fragrance
• Tighten up your diet and fitness. Reduce your carbs and stop eating processed junk. Drink 120 oz of water per day. Get to the gym or workout at home (calisthenics like push-ups) daily.
• Look for (3) daily opportunities to do something nice or kind for someone else. This will make you and the other person feel good, which will help your self-esteem.
• Say ‘yes’ to every social invite. Hang out with friends, meet new people, and get active. Practice your social skills.
• Reintroduce yourself to social media after four (4) weeks. Post pictures of the fun things you’ve done and how you look happy, stylish, and sexy.
• Send a couple of texts to that person — something like “Hey! I saw something that made me think of you today.” or “Hey, stranger! I was wondering if you could help me out with something.” This is a powerful psychological move when you ask for help, as it connects you a bit deeper. You could also ask for advice on a dating problem (real or fabricated), which will get her started thinking about you differently.
• Don’t wait too long to escalate it to a date. One reason guys get friend-zoned is waiting too long to escalate. It can be simple: Tell her you want to try a bar or restaurant. Then, ask her if she’s been there. When she says ‘no’, suggest you two go on Saturday.
• If she still considers you a friend after this 30-day plan, realize you have enough friends and don’t waste more time. Besides, your sex appeal is through the roof after completing these 30 days.

• Join a gym. I want to stay in shape because the gym helps my body, mind, and confidence. But also, spicy senoritas are all over the gym. I would also join a yoga studio.
• Get a haircut by a woman. I will go to a salon and have a woman stylist cut my hair. I am surrounded by women stylists every day, and they are always looking for a good man. I would choose a higher-end salon with higher quality caliber stylists. These salons may be more pricey, but a different level of women will surround you. Many stylists are single, but they also have single clients and friends. It’s a great place to network and also get your hair done.
• Fill your social calendar. I would pack my social calendar full, including going out on weekends, finding out what my friends are doing, and not being afraid to go to a restaurant or bar alone. Talk to the bartender and start to network, make some mingle, and get social.
• Talk to everyone. I would give compliments and work on my social skills regarding small talk. Become comfortable making random conversations with random people, so when you see somebody you’re interested in, you can pull the trigger and not stumble on your words. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.
• Grab the dating kit. I would hit the link and grab this Pete & Pedro dating deal. Get 1 Cologne, FREE Fresh Deodorant, and FREE Fresh Ball Powder for $50 (retails $84). Smell amazing!
• Clean your living spaces. I would clean my car, my house, and my room. Your place needs to smell good and be clean.
• Update your social media. Ensure all bad pictures are gone, and systematically orchestrate a more seductive social media presence. Choose photographs that accentuate your positive features and are more provocative. Post all the fun things you’re going out and doing, which will send a psychological message that you are entertaining and somebody to be with.
• Stop watching p***. P”** will rob you of your motivation. You’ll become more horny and want to get more action.
• Take a deep dive into your job, career, or side hustle. Success is attractive. You can also change your job, where you are exposed to different people, including women, and your environment has changed. Join me in the White Label Mpire Community for a supportive, interactive, and informative environment to help build your side hustle.
• Be the best version of yourself. Focus on your mind. Perhaps go to therapy and deal with issues and baggage. Surround yourself with people that love you and support you. Make sure the people around you are uplifting.
• Volunteer. Look for opportunities to help other people. You can do this on the weekends, and it feels incredible to give back.

That said, I want to talk more about friendship, specifically people you should avoid. The inspiration for this video came from my White Label Mpire Community, where the support, encouragement, and group are amazing. Everybody is cheering each other and uplifting everybody. It’s so inspiring. These are the people you need to surround yourself with.

I met Antonio Centeno under similar circumstances. Being an entrepreneur is a lonely road, and I wasn’t surrounded by other people who understood what I was going through. When I met Antonio, he showed me we were not each other’s competition and that we could help each other. Everything started to get better.

You’ll never achieve what you could if you surround yourself with people who bring you down and hold you back. These people will be holding you down. You should avoid negative people at all costs. Who you surround yourself with will dictate where you end up in life. If you surround yourself with losers or people who have poor character, you will be held back. 

When you shed the deadweight and outgrow these people, you can surround yourself with uplifting and amazing people who are your friends and support you. These people will cheer you on when you’re successful and help you achieve greatness.

Here’s the deadweight you should shed: 

1. Narcissists. These people are only concerned about themselves. They think the world revolves around them, and there’s no room for them to love or respect others.
2. Cheaters. Cheaters’ behavior can manifest in different ways. A lot of times, they’re going to use you as an excuse. Also, do you want to surround yourself with someone unwilling to do the hard work? It’s not acceptable to cheat or mess around.
3. Pessimists. They see the worst and everything and are always blaming and complaining and bitching. They feel that life is out of their control — they are enemy vampires who suck the life out of everything. They will rob you of your positive energy bandwidth.
4. Losers. This broad term refers to those who are not motivated and are okay with being average. You may have grown up with some of these people, and you must outgrow them because of their self-destructive nature and loser mindset.
5. Gossipers. They’re always talking crap behind people’s backs.
6. Liars. You may catch someone in ‘insignificant’ white lies, but if somebody’s lying to you, it means they don’t respect you or something’s happening with them. Little white lies could potentially become significant big things.
7. Untrustworthy. If you don’t trust somebody around money or your woman, it’s not okay. It may not have happened yet, but it will.
8. Jealous or competitive. Someone who’s super jealous or is not happy for you when you achieve, or if they’re always trying to compete with you, they do not want to grow together with you.
9. Assholes. This person is always a jerk to others. They’re also mean to their girlfriends, servers, or their parents. They are nasty.
10. Unreliable. These people do not adhere to what they say they will do. They are not men of their word and will cancel plans last minute or make excuses not to do things.
11. Energy vampires. These people always have problems and issues. When you give them advice, they don’t take it. They will suck the life out of you.
12. Don’t take ownership of their actions. These people don’t take responsibility and play the blame game. When they make a mistake, they don’t own it.
13. Dumb. These people do not seek knowledge, and they do not look at other people’s opinions. They are one-dimensional and closed-minded. Everything is black and white. Life has a lot of gray areas, so you need to be around people who can constructively think and analyze situations. If someone is rigid and regimented in their belief or ideology, you must eliminate them.
14. Lacking of integrity. If somebody in your life robs, cheats, and isn’t a good person, they should not be your friend. Surround yourself with those who love and support you. You need quality people that are moving in the right direction.

Factors that make men attractive at a deeper level

1. Having humility. If you’re humble with a modest view of your importance, this is incredibly sexy. In a world where everybody is boasting about how amazing they are and how they’re all kicking ass, low-key humble is sexy.
2. Standing up for yourself. If you’re not a people pleaser or a puss, you’re automatically more attractive. People will automatically respect you more if you have principles and stand up for them.
3. Doing nice things. Doing for others boosts your self-esteem and confidence while making you look good. When we see people doing things nice for others, we automatically think the person is more attractive.
4. Having discipline. Instant gratification is rampant. Having discipline and the ability to focus when things aren’t fun or exciting will automatically make you more attractive. It also makes you more productive.
5. Being financially successful. Women will be more prone to date a financially stable man with potential than one who isn’t but is better looking. Make sure that you are financially successful. Get yourself a side hustle by checking out the White Label Mpire Community.
6. Letting your ego go. You need to learn from people who are better than you. Accept help from others who are better than you and know more than you. You will grow professionally and personally and become more attractive because you’ve expanded your knowledge base.
7. Being even-tempered. Don’t be a mess and get mad when you can stay calm and cool under pressure, making you automatically more attractive. When you freak out and get emotional, such as in anger, you’ve allowed your emotions to rule your actions. You aren’t thinking things through clearly and calmly. You’ll make better decisions by calming yourself and thinking things through before taking action. You will also be viewed as more attractive.
8. Talking to strangers. Making conversation is a skill. Being able to meet and engage with people and take it deeper makes you more attractive because you’re open and vulnerable. Ensure you drop the act and not pretend you’re something you’re not. Being real makes you more attractive because you’re authentic. Being authentic makes people feel more special, and your attraction level is boosted when you’re interested in others.
9. Having manners. Saying yes ma’am, yes sir, and thank you is easy to do and will automatically make you respected. You indicate that you value what people have said or did. Make sure you open the door for others, and if the door is open for you, make sure you say thank you.
10. Being loyal and faithful. Don’t flirt, and don’t take the bait. Automatically, you will be the sexiest dude in the room.

If you can learn to read the signs, you will get more action. Learn to read the signs and understand that you are the prize. You’ll have more opportunities, but don’t lead her on if you have a significant other.

Signs she wants a piece of you

1. Overuse of emojis. If you’re texting with a woman and she sends a lot of emojis, that is code for wanting a piece of you.
2. Able to read your mood. If she can read your mood and call you on it, this is a sign she’s very perceptive and knows what’s going on with you. This means she’s interested in you more than a friend. Also, she’s into you if she supports you and your goals. This one often flies under the radar, but if she’s encouraging, uplifting, and supportive, she wants you.
3. Eye contact. If she’s staring or looking at you hard, this is a sign she likes you. If you look up and she looks away quickly, that’s also a sign she is staring at you and, thus, likes you.
4. Touching. You may think she accidentally grazed you, but it’s not accidental. If she’s touching you on the shoulder or hand or if she accidentally grazes your thigh, it’s not by accident. She did it on purpose because she’s all up in your business. Body language proximity is the key here. She is invading your space often, meaning she’s interested in you.
5. Complimenting. If she compliments you on anything, whether it’s your hair, looks, shirt, or scent, she’s interested.
6. Touching her hair. If she’s preening, she wants you. This is not an accident if she’s fidgeting with her clothes and ensuring you notice.
7. Thinking you’re funny. If she’s laughing and thinking you’re funny, you’re not. She is just into you.
8. Acting mad or pissed off. This means she likes you a lot. Also, the silent treatment is code that you haven’t noticed how much she likes you. They may ignore you if they want you to notice them. You may ask what’s wrong, and they’ll say nothing. If they’re acting a bit cold or distant, this is a sign she likes you.

What if she rejects you?

If a woman ignores or rejects you, who cares. Screw her. Plenty of spicy fish are in the sea, and if somebody’s not interested in you for whatever reason, you must remember you are the prize.

Work on yourself, build yourself into the man you envision yourself as. Take care of yourself and your body. Do not do drugs or drink excessively. Don’t have self-sabotage or do self-destructive things. Dress better, up your grooming game, and engage with people. Make new friends and work towards your dream. If you still need to have a side hustle, develop one. Now is the best time to start a business. Join me in my White Label Mpire Community where the magic is happening, and you can take my blueprint and start making money for yourself.

Remember that you need to have your own life — make sure you have your own friends and hobbies, and don’t always be sitting by the phone waiting for her. Have your life together because she doesn’t want to be with a boy — she wants to be with a man.

Small and subtle attributes that will make a powerful impression

1. Cook for her. If you can cook a meal, it’s game over. Guys who can cook are on the next level. Don’t Uber. If you truly want to impress her, cook a meal.
2. Plan something special. Do something for her without her asking. It’s all about surprise and delight. If you plan a date, trip, or something special, even if it’s a walk in the park, you’ll automatically impress her.
3. Look good aesthetically. Ensure you’re well groomed, as most men are sloppy. Dress well, which also puts you above the rest. And if you have the next physique, you’re next level. Pride in appearance impresses women, and she will be yours forever. If you’re going to pop the question, make sure you use jamesallen.com. This resource is perfect for a Valentine’s Day gift, any holiday, anniversaries, and popping the question. They have signature and timeless pieces that every woman wants in her collection at the best prices.
4. Be a gentleman. Chivalry is not dead. Men have just gotten a little lax and slack. Open doors and stand up when she’s leaving a restaurant table. Take your jacket off and give it to her when she’s cold. Say please and thank you, and treat everybody with courtesy and respect. These gestures automatically set you apart from lazy and un-mannered dudes.
5. Have a nice smile. Make sure your mouth is not all janky and funky. Make sure your gums are not nasty. Also, do not have horrible halitosis. Get your teeth fixed if you need to. Above all, have a white smile, as bleaching strips are affordable and can be found at nearly every drugstore or grocery store. Use for approximately 20 minutes for noticeably whiter teeth. Smiling will instantly bond and connect you with other people.
6. Have a purpose and goals. Being a motivated go-getter with hopes and dreams is very attractive. If you have a passion and a direction, you are the man she will want to be and stay with.
7. Take your time and slow down in bed. Start with foreplay before you ever get to the bedroom. One of the problems with watching the movies is that they paint an unrealistic expectation for dudes about what satisfies the spicy senorita. Take it slow and be provocative. Be more engaged and willing to satisfy her.
8. Possess knowledge. You’re attractive if you’re intelligent and intellectual and can problem-solve. Women will be impressed if you’re emotionally stable and can pull it out when needed. Also, she will be impressed if you can talk about your feelings and be in touch with who you are and what’s going on inside. A stoic man who never talks about emotions and puts up walls will not form a bond to have a healthy relationship. Be vulnerable, but not to the point of being a puss, as it’s unattractive to cling and beg.

One hundred heterosexual women were polled, who said they didn’t care about size. As dudes, we care about size because we are fans of watching ‘the movies.’ We see these guys who are hung like mythical beasts and think that this is normal or even average. According to research, 5.1 to 5.5 inches when hard is technically average. So if you’re between five and five and a half, you’re aces. Now. the truth is size is not equal because 80% of women said thickness is more important than length.

Insecure about your size? Options include

If you are insecure about your size, there are surgical options, one of which takes a silicone sleeve and implants it. Unfortunately, it’s costly. There’s also a lengthening surgery, in which the ligament is cut. Extenders are another option but dangerous as you’re stretched over time. Jelqing is also another way, which is milking when your semi. Usually, this is combined with some pumping. A pump also is an option. I’ve used Bathmate and talked about it in numerous videos.

Realize it’s not just these positions that I will review that enhance her experience. It’s also about her finding that ‘OH.’ It’s not just about hammering away — it’s also about stimulating her and visiting Brenda downtown.

Seven Best Positions for the Modest Stature

1. Doggy style– to take it further, I have her put her legs together between yours.
2. Cowgirl – this is her being on top. Hold her hips and let her do her thing.
3. Face off – she straddles you, and you’re face-to-face. Lean back, and you’re even bigger.
4. Seashell – this requires flexibility. See the pic.
5. Standing – this takes coordination and strength.
6. Knees to chest – on her back with her knees up and legs together.
7. Spork – a hybrid between a spoon and a fork. You can go a lot deeper because her leg is up.

A REAL man …

1. Doesn’t worry about what other people are doing. A man stays in his lane and doesn’t worry about other people’s actions. He’s busy worrying and focusing on himself to make himself the best possible man he can be.
2. Doesn’t talk about other people. He is also not jealous. Many times, somebody with more than you didn’t have an advantage or was lucky. It is that that they were willing to do things that you weren’t.
3. Handles his business and responsibilities. This goes for his children as well. If a man gets a woman pregnant and then is, “Deuces, I’m out,” he’s a horrible human being. He needs to handle his business.
4. Doesn’t ask for handouts. A man doesn’t wait for somebody to knock on his door and deliver money, success, or anything. He goes after it and doesn’t sit back and wait. He doesn’t beg. He’s also not a simp. He doesn’t beg for attention because he’s secure and confident. He doesn’t kiss people’s asses.
5. Doesn’t waste time. Time is one of your most valuable assets. It is very precious. Unfortunately, many men wait to start a business, get a better job, ask out that spicy senorita, or better themselves. Think about where you would be today if you started doing whatever it was when you thought about it. Think about where you were five years ago, six years ago, seven years ago — where you would be today if you had started then. The sooner you open your eyes and accomplish your dreams, the better. I can help you with a blueprint, which is free. If you want more information, I have a course in a community that you can join with a one-time fee with no membership or subscription.
6. Doesn’t allow himself to be broke. I used to be broke, and I can tell you from the experience that I wasn’t living my dream. When you’re worried about money, it’s hard to be confident. If you need to get a second or third job or start a side hustle, you must do what it takes not to be broke. If it means driving a crappy car or living in your parent’s basement for a while, get yourself out of debt and financially free. Financial freedom also means not having all your eggs in one basket, which is one of the worst things people can do. You need multiple income streams and invest your extra cash into things that will pay you dividends or distribution for a passive income.
7. Doesn’t neglect his body. Your body is your most valuable asset, so protect it by eating right, not abusing drugs or alcohol, and working out. You need to lift heavy, which is a must if you consider yourself a man because your body needs strength.
8. Doesn’t neglect his grooming and style. Your image is your brand, and in the first three seconds upon meeting somebody, an opinion is formed, whether good or bad. You have 100% control over your image. Ensure you’re well groomed, smell incredible, and dress with intention and purpose. People are attracted to attractive people.

Being rejected sucks, and it’s scary. But what do you have to lose? Seriously, if you get rejected, what happens? It will sting for a bit, but you’ll survive. The more you try, approach, and engage, the more chances you’ll have to get a yes. The more you practice, the better off you’ll be and the more comfortable you’ll become.

Here’s a trick I want you to try — the three-second rule. If you see somebody you want to talk to, give yourself 3 seconds and then act. Whether or not this is approaching & introducing yourself, saying hello, or giving a compliment, don’t allow yourself the time to get nervous and weird.

The good news is that most women out in the wild are just looking for a fantastic guy with the features we will discuss. And if you do, the fear of rejection should be zero because her chance of rejecting you is zero.

Get a YES 100% of the time!

Dress well. Most guys dress like crap, so dressing will give you a competitive advantage over them. Dressing well allows a woman who sees you in the first 3 seconds of the meeting to form a favorable opinion of you. Dressing well is one of the quickest and easiest things you can do that will change others’ perceptions of you.

Don’t look desperate. If you look like you’re hungry, thirsty, or dying for a spicy senorita, this makes you look incredibly rejectable. Demystify women and take away that magical power so that you make yourself on an even playing field.

Be successful. This does not equate to having millions of dollars. But you need to have means and resources along with stability. They need to feel like you can care for them and that you are stable. If you’re successful, this automatically moves you ten steps above another dude who’s just good-looking. Good looks may fade unless you’re using Tiege Hanley.

Have a white smile. Ensure your grill is white with bleaching strips that are easy to clean. You could take it to the next level by getting bleaching trays or seeing the dentist for teeth whitening. If you’re really worried about your teeth, you can have orthodontic procedures such as braces or veneers.

Have a good physique. You don’t want to have a doughy and soft body with sloppy man boobs. And you need to fix your love handles. Go to the gym and work on having a muscular and toned body. Women are more likely to want to do naughty and nasty things if you have a nice body.

Don’t put on an act. Putting on an act turns off many women because they can tell you’re trying to impress them.

Look fun. Make sure that you look fun on your social media platforms and profiles. It’s like an advertisement for yourself. Post things that make you look interesting, engaging, and inviting to convey that you’re somebody people want to be with and are adventurous. You can post going out to restaurants, doing cool things, and looking like the life of the party.

Have a sense of humor. This is a game-changer. But you don’t want to go overboard. Guys often make mistakes and go overboard, trying to be funny. But having a sense of humor is a game changer by being low-key humorous, poking funny yourself, and never making fun of other people. However, you don’t want to make fun of yourself too much because you don’t want to look like you have low self-esteem. You could also send memes you think are funny that she’ll dig. She will associate humor with you even though you may not be that funny.

Here’s the good news. I have done the hard yards for you, and I will go over a few things that she wants you to do even though she will never tell you. If you do these things, I promise you that you both will be happier, and you will have fewer fights.

1. She wants to be turned on when you take off your clothes. If you are sloppy fat or have a dad-bod, you need to do something about it. Don’t think for a second that she wants to be with a sloppy, soft, doughy, dad-bod dude. She wants to be with somebody who has a little muscle tone. It doesn’t mean you must have a six-pack or chisel glutes, but you must work out.
2. She wants you to fix your style. Don’t think for one second she wants to walk into a room looking all sexy and sexy with a sloppy dude next to her with wrinkled shirts and baggy clothes.
3. She doesn’t want you to flirt with her friends. She wants you to say no if she tells you that her friend is pretty or that a woman is beautiful. She wants you to tell her that she is pretty and grab her ass. She wants you to tell her how amazing and mind-blowingly perfect her booty is.
4. She wants you to compliment her without it being solicited. When she asks, it doesn’t count. You need to come out and say that she looks good even if she looks whack and beat up in the morning. She wants to feel appreciated.
5. She wants you to have a handsome face. Have you ever noticed how much time and money she spends on her face to be beautiful? She takes care of her face, whether it’s reverse aging treatments, anti-aging treatments, makeup, moisturizers, or retinol — she wants you to do the same thing. She doesn’t want you to be old, wrinkled, and have age spots. She wants you to be handsome forever. Tiege Hanley has a new cutting-edge product called Retinol Stick, a game changer. Women have been using retinol for years to even skin tone, reduce oiliness, shrink pore size, shrink scars, and reduce wrinkles.
6. She wants you to be hungry for something better. Whether or not it’s your career, ambition, drive, or motivation, she wants you to have a burning desire. She doesn’t want to be your mother or parent, and she wants you to be there to support her and her needs as well. You guys should be a team.
7. She wants you to be a man. She doesn’t want a boy or a puss or a person that she has to coddle or take care of. You need to be self-sufficient and reliable as a man. Also, be a man of your word and never cheat. If you are not happy in your relationship, end it. Or do the hard work to facilitate and develop a healthier relationship.
8. She wants you to communicate and talk. She wants you to open up and be part of her world. She wants to know what’s happening inside and longs for that connection. She may get it elsewhere if you don’t give it to her.
9. She wants you to defend her. She needs to feel safe and protected. She wants to feel like you’re a resourceful man she can rely on.
10. She wants you to help around the house. This includes doing the dishes, vacuuming, laundry, and other little things. This will mean the world to her and make her feel more appreciated.
11. She wants you to plan and not wait for her to do everything. She wants to feel special and wants you to take the bull by the horns to make things happen, whether or not it’s planning a date, special event, or dinner.
12. She wants you to go downtown to visit Brenda. She may not actually tell you because you’re too busy taking care of yourself, but the fact is you need to allow her to let her freak flag fly. Encourage and embrace it. Ask her what gets her excited, and let her be naughty. She wants to feel sexy and beautiful, and if you make her feel desired, the good news is that she’s going to be ready to be all sexy and do whatever the hell you want.

Make her crave you like a crackhead.

1. Stop trying to impress. One of the men’s most prominent mistakes is trying to impress instead of being present. When you try to impress somebody, they can sense it. They can tell you’re trying to be something you’re not or acting a certain way. This can come across as needy and desperate like you don’t have something better or other options. Just be present and have a great conversation. Believe you are fantastic. I want you to repeat after me, “I am awesome. I am the catch.” Say it again and again. Say this repeatedly in your head when you’re talking to somebody and they’re communicating with you. When you do this, you will change your perceptions. You will stop being desperate and trying to impress.
2. Wait 5 minutes. Do not respond too quickly when she texts you. A lot of guys are overly eager and anxious. They make themselves too available. Wait and hold back by pushing it down. When you wait, she will build up a scenario in which you’re busy with somebody else, not liking her, and so on. When you don’t respond, she’ll get more excited and say yes to anything you want to do.
3. Less is more. Kissing is incredibly powerful and seductive. It can hook a woman instantly when you kiss her for the first time, and sparks & magic happen. She will absolutely be craving more. But to be a fantastic kisser, less is more. Do not be super forceful or wet. Don’t use a lot of tongue or try to jam your tongue down her throat. It’s playful banter, nibbling, and pulling back. Grab her face, touch her head, and control the situation to drive her wild with desire and anticipation.
4. Be better in bed. You do not have to have a gigantic sausage to be exceptional in bed. Most women don’t care that much about the size as much as performance. Make sure you throw everything you learned from the movies out the window. Seduction is the key that starts before you enter the bedroom by building anticipation and excitement through text, words, touches, and caresses. Squeeze her booty, whisper in her ear, and nibble on her ear. Don’t rush things, and take it slow. Try Joy Mode, my secret weapon, to make it unbelievably hard, firm, and bigger. It’s an all-natural sexual performance booster with epic ingredients.
5. Take control. Be a man. I’m not saying you can’t be manly if you’re a little feminine, but being manly is a mindset and mentality. Don’t fall apart; be competent, confident, self-assured, and self-reliant. Being a man doesn’t mean that you need to act super tough. Be vulnerable, able to talk about things, and be in touch with your emotions. However, don’t always constantly cry or coerce her to communicate and talk with you. She needs to feel a connection. If you can rock with her, you’ll be rocking with her more often.
6. Get what you want. Take it, don’t ask, don’t contemplate, don’t beat around the bush. This is one of the most attractive things if you can tell her you’re going to take her out, that you’re going to do this, that you’re going to pick her up at 5:00 p.m., that you’re ready and have plans. Most dudes are wishy-washy and unsure.

So the other day, when I saw this article that published a study done by Men’s Health that asked a hundred women what was more important to their satisfaction, length or girth, I was very intrigued. I was also shocked by the results. When I looked at the data, I didn’t realize that the average male is much smaller and is not as thick as I perceived. Check out my demonstration with cucumbers. More about this study momentarily.

Length vs Girth

Men think they want some long 12-in monster that we can make her go crazy. The reality is that would hurt her. The vagina is not super deep at 4.25 to 4.75 in on average; if you’re hammering and banging up against her cervix, she’s not getting stimulated, excited, or pleasured.

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Bathmate will draw more blood than usual, and over time, by doing this consistently, it will stretch out and create thickness. It seriously works. Another added benefit of using Bathmate is that you will last longer. It has made every aspect of my sex life a lot better, and my wife has been enjoying my increased thickness as well. Increase your size in multiple ways; check out Bathmate.

What is the critical factor about genital size

The Men’s Health study asked a hundred women aged 18 to 71 about the most critical factor in their partner’s genital size. The results for satisfaction stated that 70% of girth, 18% said length, and 12% said external factors. Realize that 95% of women do not reach that point of ‘oh mama’ from just you pounding away. It takes stimulation, which a thicker Big Al will have more ability to create friction and a more satisfying experience for her.

The takeaway is if you are not well endowed with length, don’t worry about it. Most women say that average length is perfect. Thickness is something you can do about, however. And always remember to practice the alpha rule of getting sexy and freaky. Take care of her first and you second — then everybody wins. It’s not just about hammering away; it’s about stimulating, touching, and taking your time. It’s about listening to your partner and communicating. Read her body language, have foreplay, and do all of the touches you need to do to dazzle and rock her world.

The good news is that you can modify your lifestyle and boost it. You can bring it back to the normal range, but you must first identify it. At around the age of 30 years old, testosterone naturally drops about 1% per year. This isn’t a big deal if you’re starting at a high enough level, but most men are not. Why? Also, if testosterone levels are low, TRT should NOT be the first option because the Twins will shut down and not work.

Why men’s testosterone levels have been on the decline:

• Obesity.
• Lack of exercise.
• Weed.
• Sugar and processed foods.
• Environmental toxins.

Warning signs testosterone is low:

• Small semen volume.
• Not as hard.
• Impotence.
• Reduce sex drive or libido.
• Bad sleep.
• Poor sleep quality.
• Low muscle mass.
• Man boobs
• Low mood and mood swings.
• Mentally fuzzy and foggy.
• Hair loss.

What to do if your testosterone levels are low:

• Exercise.
• Reduce body fat percent.
• Stop smoking.
• Stop excessive alcohol consumption.
• Refrain from hops found in beer.
• Add supplements of vitamin D, zinc, and magnesium.
• Refrain from hormone-injected meats.
• Stop drinking out of plastics.

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You need to know about diamonds and about how the whole system works so you can get her a bigger ring, a better diamond, and the best deal. You don’t want to get screwed because that happened to me back when I decided to pop the question to my wife.

Find the best selection of diamonds

Technology and the internet have changed the game for buying engagement rings and jewelry. The only option prior was to go to a retail store, which highly marked up diamonds. They also had a very small selection. Brick-and-mortar stores have a lot of overhead, so you’ll overpay for a subpar product or a product that you can get for 50% less if you shopped at jamesallen.com.

Purchasing a diamond or other jewelry from jamesallen.com means a large selection compared to standard brick-and-mortar stores. They have over 200K certified conflict-free diamonds. Selection matters, so you can customize it based on your needs. You can also take advantage of their budget pricing and lab-created diamonds.

I want to review some tricks and tips you can use when you pull the trigger. These will help ensure that she absolutely loves it and shows it off to her friends. First, you must know about the four C’s of diamonds: cut, clarity, color, and carat.

The 4 Cs

• Carat: This is the weight of the diamond. It’s how big the diamond is depending on the different cuts and will impact the visual size & shape of the diamond.
• Cut: Refer to the video for cut descriptions for round, princess, cushion, emerald, pear, oval, radiant, asscher, marquise, and heart.
• Clarity: Clarity is basically how clear the diamond is, which means the clearer the diamond, the more pricey it will be. Inclusions are little imperfections in a diamond, and the less imperfections equate to more money. The clarity scale goes from F to I3. Flawless means you have very small inclusions. Jamesallen.com has display technology to zoom in and check out the diamond in a 360° view.
• Color: Color also varies from colorless to near colorless to faint color.

The Setting and Price

Now that we have covered the four C’s, we must discuss the setting. You need to decide what metal you want the ring, whether white gold, yellow gold, rose gold, or platinum. I recommend going with something simple because you can always change it later. A round diamond in a simple setting is gorgeous. Check out my example in the video.

Regarding price, you need to determine what your budget is. Choose what you can afford. With jamesallen.com, you can specify your price and then shop from that foundation. You can customize everything, taking the price from $500 up to a couple of thousand.

Sometimes, you’ll need to talk to a salesperson. At jamesallen.com, the salespeople are non-commissioned, so they can help you answer questions and walk you through the process. It makes the selection and buying process comfortable and easy. Jamesallen.com also has a 100% money-back guarantee for 30 days.

Even if she wants action right now and is jumping your bones, that will slow down, and you will need this information. Guys who have been in long-term relationships will want to spice it up and get more action, so this video is vital, too.

Make yourself a piece of ass. Take a hard look at yourself in the mirror. Would you want to make out with yourself? If the answer is no, you need to fix it if you expect to get more action. You need to make sure that you’re sexy and desirable. You need to dress well and take care of your skin.

Make her feel like the dirtiest and naughtiest little vixen you’ve ever seen. Use your words even though, in your head, you think you’ve already told her this stuff. If you expect to get more action, you need to reinvigorate and reunite that fire and passion. You need to make her feel beautiful and sexy.

Let her know how much you crave her. Let her know that you crave her and that she does crazy things to your brain. Let her know that all you do is think about her. Her self-esteem will go through the roof, and you will turn her on. She wants to feel like she still turns you on, and when you let her know this, you will facilitate her getting excited and wanting to please you. It starts with you not being lazy.

Make time for playtime. When we get into our lives, we often fall into stale patterns and stagnant ruts where nobody’s interested in getting sexy. Set time aside to take her out on dates, play at home, and make the relationship a priority. Help out with daily chores so that it freezes up her time and makes her feel appreciated, too. Introduce new freaky sex ideas. Some women will not initially be comfortable with this but perhaps watch a movie to get her juice flowing, something like ‘Fifty Shades of Gray,’ which has given women permission to let their freak flag fly.

Stop waiting for her to take action. You need to do it, but it starts before you actually get to the bedroom. Many guys think that they’re ready for sex and that she is, too. But she’s not warmed up. She is a very exotic, amazing, mystical, magical, spicy sports car that you need to warm up. You need to build excitement, anticipation, and tension between the two of you.

Used toys and gadgets. Many couples are worried about what their partner will say or do if they’re creative in the bedroom. The truth is to bring it up. What do you have to lose? This is supposed to be fun as long as it’s not illegal. Regarding porn, what women watch is very different than what a man watches. Women watch more seductive, sensual, and slower movies than men are used to watching. So, porn may be something you guys want to incorporate in your relationship but cut it out in your solo life. You will be more motivated, passionate, and better overall with sex.

Make it a priority. If you’re serious about wanting to get more action, you need to make it a priority. You don’t want to do it in a negative way, with pressure or nagging, because that’s not sexy. It’s about suggesting and doing what you need to do to be sexy.

So, in an attempt to help your spicy senorita be more satisfied when it counts, I will go over a few ways for you to boost your prowess as a man. I’m also going to go over a few exercises that have been scientifically proven to enhance the experience and duration of action. Keep in mind that sex is something to be taken seriously. Unfortunately, many people in today’s social media world have made sex seem like no big deal. It’s a very, very big deal with consequences that you could face due to having it. Make sure you protect yourself, and don’t be stupid.

How to make sure she’s satisfied

Throw it out! Throw out everything you have learned or think you know from the movies. I don’t want to get into the pros and cons of watching stuff online, but porn is not the baseline to expect to satisfy a partner. Those movies are built for dudes who are very visual. Women take more nuance and emotional connection, not to mention time, to get them there. Besides, not watching them will make you hungrier and want to go after it more. Not watching will also make it better and more exciting, wanting to do more to satisfy her.

If you want to satisfy her, go downtown. Also, if you want to satisfy her, hammering away will not get it done. You need to stimulate her downtown. Don’t rush into it, and take your time. Realize that men don’t need a buildup like women do. Men are ready to roll, but women need to start the process a lot sooner than when you’re ready to get naked. Send a little dirty text, grab a little kiss, and nibble on the ear. Build excitement.

Something might be happening if you’re having trouble getting Big Al to do what it needs to or be rock solid. That’s your body’s check engine light. You could take supplements such as L-arginine, a vasodilator, or L-citrine, which allows more blood flow. Containing these supplements and more, Joy Mode is a natural sexual performance booster. Take it 45 minutes before, then it will reach maximum potency and last 5 hours. It’s an amazing product and game-changer if you experience ED or just want Big Al bigger, better, and harder. When I first tried it, I was so impressed. The micronutrients are designed to support testosterone, and you’ll feel amazing. Try Joymode now and receive 20% off your order with code ALPHAM20

If you want to be better, clean up your diet. A diet that is high in saturated crap and nonsense, along with a lot of carbohydrates, will cause you to be sluggish and not feel as good. The better and cleaner you eat, the more you exercise and work out, and the more you take care of your body, the more your body will be ready for physical action.

Also, increase the amount of water you’re consuming because if you’re properly hydrated, you’ll have more blood volume, which equates to a rock-solid Big Al.

Caffeine is also good for circulation, but smoking is bad. If you want the best you can possibly be, stop smoking because you don’t want to stink, you don’t want vasoconstriction, and you don’t want an itty bitty Weiner.

Use or lose it because research has shown that you must work out Big Al routinely. You need to fill it with blood and get it big, swollen, and strong. Repeatedly done, it will get a pump that is bigger and stronger.

Exercises that enhance the experience

• Planks
• Heavy squats
• Kegling
• Crunches

Endurance tips

• Think about grandma naked
• Think about dead puppies
• Try edging with yourself or your partner
• Do it, regroup, go again
• Condoms

I want you to go through this exercise to remind you why you fell in love with this person in the first place. This list is why they’re worth fighting. What I outline in today’s video will ensure that you stay in love because, after 20 years of being with my wife, I’ve learned a few valuable things.

Reasons why relationships fall apart

When you get comfortable in a relationship, you get complacent and lazy. The laziness trap is the single biggest relationship killer and is why so many relationships fall apart. Your relationship is affected when you get lazy, and she gets lazy. Relationships take work and consistent work. Both of you need to work on yourselves and ensure you look good physically. Taking care of yourself physically is the number one thing you can do to show the person you’re with that you respect yourself and them. You want to ensure that what they initially fell in love with and found sexually desirable is still desirable. 

Getting older or not being as lean or shredded doesn’t matter. But you should still dress with style and intention, be groomed like a gentleman, and take good care of yourself. When you take pride in the ownership of your appearance, your self-esteem and pride are built. You won’t be a good partner if you don’t feel good about yourself.

Keep dating and courting each other. Do sweet things consistently for her and let her know that she’s thought of. These could include sending a cute text, buying flowers, or surprising her with something she loves. Doing special things will let her know that you’re thinking of her and make her feel like you appreciate her. If not, she may seek it through other means or lose interest in you. If someone feels valued and respected regularly, it’s amazingly intoxicating.

Help around the house because it’s not her job or responsibility to do your laundry or clean up after you. Small gestures of appreciation go a long way and do not go unnoticed. Doing it consistently and not just occasionally will facilitate a healthy and happy relationship.

Don’t stop talking to each other. One of the biggest mistakes many guys make is that they start to shut down as the relationship progresses. As you grow as a couple, you need to either grow together or else you will grow in different directions. When you first start dating, there’s a lot of communication and emotional intimacy. Don’t stop expressing what’s going on inside by not talking, as this will kill a relationship because relationships are built on communication. She should not have to pester or ask you about always opening up. Intimacy is essential to her, just as sex is important to you. Put in the time so that she feels safe around you and respected.

Don’t constantly look at or check out other women, as this is not respectful. Flirting with other people, whether a co-worker or a barista in Starbucks, is not a respectful way to act. Do not put yourself in compromising positions like going out to bars where there are many single women. Don’t get drunk and do something stupid or put yourself in a compromising position. 

Keep in mind that the grass is not greener on the other side. I know you may be struggling with your relationship. Relationships go through different seasons, and it’s about enduring, choosing to stay in love, and putting in the hard work. I can tell you from experience that love is amazing and gets even better when you stay in love. If you’re willing to put in the time and do the work, your relationship grow and flourish. Relationships are complex and take a lot of work, but the good ones are worth it.

Sweet revenge for not choosing you

Be wildly unabashedly successful in every aspect of your life. You can either achieve or let life happen to you and bend you over. People that are indeed next level, the 1%, other people that don’t worry about what other people are doing. They are laser-focused on making themselves the best version of themselves they can possibly be. This includes financial stability, but it’s not just about money.

Take care of yourself physically. What I like to think about is all of my girlfriends and their husbands or boyfriends. What do they look like? What is their body like? Are they fat and out of shape, or are they in shape? If you want to make somebody regret not being with you, have a great body. I’m not saying you need a six-pack, chiseled abs, but you must take care of yourself physically.

Take care of yourself mentally. One aspect that keeps men from truly unlocking their potential is the need to be mentally strong, including dealing with issues. You need to be stable emotionally and mentally to have people regret not being with you.

Dress well. Men who dress well are in the 1%. They understand that they need to take care of themselves stylistically, along with taking care of themselves physically. When other people meet you, what you look like determines whether they will date, hire, or give you opportunities. Focus on looking good and taking care of yourself to have an advantage over 99.99% of other guys.

Take care of grooming. Your personal branding is your calling card, so put in the time to look and smell good. Being put together is the key to realizing your full potential. The guys that are paying attention will steal the girl. They’ll also steal the money and opportunities. You need to have the best package you possibly can.

Don’t worry about other people. Do not allow other people’s opinions of you to dictate your personal feelings about yourself. If you’re worried about other people or seeking validation, you’ll never be truly confident and successful.

Be confident and composed. When you understand the value you bring to the world daily, it’s game over, and you win. All the people who didn’t give you a chance or respect you will come crawling back because they’ll want jobs, date you, make out with you, or be your friend because you’re a successful person, and success makes everything better. If you’re truly serious about being the best version of yourself, be confident, kind, and friendly.

The inspiration for today’s video is from a friend going through a very uncomfortable and messy divorce. He could not control his urges and lustful nature. Sure, it’s normal to look and notice, but lusting is being unable to push it down and compartmentalize it. You need to be able to look away and move on, but he unfortunately did not have that ability and ended up messing around on his wife a few times. She caught him, and now he’s living in his car, about to lose his job. His kids won’t talk to him, and his life is ruined.

Steps to stop lusting!

Distinguish the difference. You need to distinguish the difference between lusting and looking. Looking is totally normal because humans are visual creatures. But if you take it to the next level and start staring, obsessing, or stalking socially, this is not normal. Avoid it altogether because you will be more drawn to it if you linger. So, 3 seconds and then move on.

Focus on her eyes. Look her in the eyes and don’t break. You can look left and right but not down. Be self-aware and know that you need to focus on the eyes, and when you break, go left or right but not down.

Start being aware. Awareness is one of the most critical aspects of breaking your brain of lust. You must identify when it’s happening and know when you feel those emotions. When it comes on, redirect and rechannel this emotion to something else. If you feel the urge of lust coming over you, acknowledge it, realize it’s happening, and break it by redirecting and refocusing that energy to something unrelated, such as a hobby, walking, singing, getting a cup of coffee, or doing push-ups.

Trigger identification. What are your triggers to lust? What are those things in your day that make you feel that way? You want not to be controlled by the urges. Break the chain by removing social media app(s) from your phone and give yourself some dopamine detox.

Sexual discipline. You need to be a man of high standards and integrity, so the goal should be about not putting yourself in a position or situation. And it’s about having accountability. You must set yourself up for success and remove stimulations to avoid triggers.

Energy investment. Invest all your energy, thoughts, and lust by focusing on the person you’re actually with. Invest more in special date nights, let them know they’re beautiful, and work on sexually pleasurable experiences for both. You’ll be amazed at how much of a better relationship you’ll have, and you can rekindle that spark and rebuild your relationship to make it stronger. You’ll feel better about yourself by not making stupid ass decisions.