Today’s sugar-coated world

I am thankful I didn’t grow up with the internet or in today’s world. If you wanted a trophy, you had to earn it. When people are better than you, you have to deal with it. Life wasn’t sugar-coated, and people were not blowing smoke up everyone’s asses to make them feel included.

Nowadays, everybody wants to feel good; nothing is wrong with that. But if you want to win, you have to make it happen and put in the work. There’s no blaming somebody else for you not making it.

Instant gratification is not the way the world works. If you want something, you need to work for it. You will appreciate it more when it’s not handed to you.

Stop using your age as an excuse for not achieving anything. Age doesn’t matter. The internet has changed the game and the world. Anyone can be successful if they’re motivated.

When you’re in the mindset that you think that any of this is normal or that you’re special or that somebody is going to come to rescue you, you’ll never get off your ass and do something extraordinary.

The ease of starting a side hustle

Starting a side hustle has literally never been easier. You can take somebody else’s idea, strategy, or blueprint and copy it for yourself. You have to be willing to put in the time and work.

Today, you must ask yourself whether you will be fine being average and coasting. Many people aren’t built to start a business or be an entrepreneur. I would rather risk, fail, and pick myself up instead of never trying in the first place. Don’t fear failure. Fear regret.

You can dress well and be handsome. Still, nothing impacts your confidence like being financially secure and not relying on others. Being financially secure solves problems much easier, and every aspect of your life improves.

That’s why I started the White Label Mpire — to take everyone who wants to join me by the hand and lead them to the front of the line. I have 20 years of experience in business with both successes and failures. And with the internet, if you can figure out how to make a dollar, you can make $10. If you can make $10, you can make $100 and then $100,000+. It’s never been easier.

Today’s society — what are you going to?

Society has become conditioned to think that failure is bad, but failure is beautiful. It means you tried something, and it didn’t work. It’s fine — pick yourself up. These failures build mental strength and character along with integrity. And as far as people judging you, they don’t care about you. They’re worried about themselves. The world does not revolve around you, either.

Society also fears hard work. Our society has become soft, and we’ve become snowflakes. Take control of your destiny and do amazing things.

The truth is that success favors the brave and the bold. Who are you, what do you want to do, what type of man do you want to be, and what kind of life do you want to live? Do you want to play it safe and stay stuck? Or do you want to take action?

I want to go over these six things because I don’t want you to go down the rabbit hole of self-improvement, not thinking that you’re good enough, and constantly worrying that you’re not doing something you should be doing. If you do these six things, you will be ahead of 99.9% of other guys.

The Essential Six

1. Have a nice body. Most guys are sloppy and have doughy dad bodies. Looking around the beach or pool, do you look better than most guys? If the answer is yes, you’re ahead of most people. If not, you must get to the gym and eat better. Clean up your diet and stop being stupid.
2. Dress well. Your style will change the way other people perceive you. It also changes how you perceive yourself when you look in the mirror. If you like what you see, it boosts your confidence and makes you feel better.
3. Effective body language. A strong stance is critical to master and will set you apart from others whose heads are buried in their phones. Stand up straight and walk like you mean it. Shake people’s hands, smile regularly, and look people in the eye. Give out compliments as well. Engage with people and talk with them. Sound confident and be interesting (as well as interested).
4. Well groomed. Make sure your body hair is managed, grow a beard, and clean up your eyebrows and nose hair. If you want to regain your real hair if you’re losing it, visit Bosley.
5. Man of integrity. Are you comfortable in your own skin, or do you put others down? Do you try to act like you’re something you’re not, or are you comfortable being you? Do you follow the herd, or are you your own man? Stand up for what you believe in and be a leader. This will set you apart from others and make you more confident.
6. Good man. (a) Helping others will improve your self-esteem and confidence. Look for opportunities to assist others, making you look more attractive and confident. It’s good for your soul and will bring you happiness. Happiness should be the goal for everyone. Feel good about life and the man you are. (b) Being a good man doesn’t mean you’re a nice guy or a people pleaser. It doesn’t mean that you’re kissing people’s asses. Have a good moral compass, be a man of integrity, and do what’s right.

Don’t let these behaviors hold you back!

1. No boundaries. This is very important and one of the most attractive traits that a man can possess. If you’re always available and open, you’re constantly allowing people to take advantage of you, which indicates to other people that you have low value. Set personal boundaries for people and situations.
2. Fake nice behavior. This behavior is typical for nice guys. They make nice gestures or kind things with ulterior motives. Just be a good dude.
3. Conflict avoidance. If you’re always saying ‘yes’ or never standing up for yourself or the people around you, that signifies that you are a p^ssy. Nobody’s attracted to a weak man.
4. Being needy. Whether or not it’s with people, girls, or whatever, there’s nothing sexy about a guy who is always needy, pathetic, and not coming across as confident. Kissing people’s asses is not respectable.
5. Submissive body language. Communicate better by standing confidently, having good posture, looking people in the eye, smiling, and shaking hands. A weak shake makes you look low value. It’s all about confidence and how you carry yourself.
6. Sloppy appearance. Don’t look doughy because others will think you suck, look weak, and have low value. High-value men care for their bodies and have body fat under 15%. They do what they need to do to take care of their temple.
7. Messy dressed. Dressing is one of the quickest and easiest things you can do to elevate your perception. Dress with style and intention. Dress like a grown-up. Invest in a tailored, high-quality suit to make you look confident and successful. You can also dress the suit down by wearing the slacks with a polo shirt, which is not your daddy’s polo. Mine’s from Collars and Co. The fit, fabric, and construction instantly upgrade your shirt game.
8. Overcomplementing. Giving compliments is essential, demonstrates comfort in your skin, and makes others feel good about themselves. But there’s a fine line between giving compliments and overdoing it. A compliment must be authentic, so giving multiple complex compliments in one conversation makes you look low-value.
9. Being passive. If you’re never taking action, not making decisions (always saying you don’t care), you’re acting like a nice guy. You need to have an opinion and be concise and decisive with your actions to look high value automatically.
10. Having low standards. If you settle because you think you can’t get better or you’re worried that you’ll fail, then you don’t try, and you’re reducing your standards. Whether dating, getting a job, or pursuing your dreams, you must have high standards, translating into being viewed as a higher value. High-value men have high standards for carrying themselves and interacting with others.
11. The Martyr Syndrome. Nice guys act like victims to gain attention. They try to get a helping hand or have people do things for them. Do not act like a victim. You are strong, capable, and competent. Take ownership of your actions.
12. Not accepting responsibility. Low-value men deflect responsibility for their mistakes and say it’s not their fault. They’re always looking for an out and blaming other people. This automatically makes you look low value. High-value men accept responsibility for their mistakes and apologize when something is wrong. But they don’t overly apologize. Do not apologize for things that aren’t your fault because that will make you look weak and feel less confident.

You’re more attractive than you think if you are…

1. Catching people looking at you multiple times in public
2. Getting away with being weird or awkward (you get a pass)
3. Getting touched by women because women don’t touch people they aren’t attracted to
4. Giving you things or doing nice things for you
5. Compliments from other men. Make sure you don’t deflect it
6. Being told by your mom that you’re very handsome
7. Waking up with your c^ck in a random person’s mouth
8. Getting women looking at you and then shying away if you catch them. Also, if women are preening (hair flipping, touching their lips, covering their mouth, adjusting their clothing or glasses) or smiling at you.
9. Getting random women walking up and telling you that you’re handsome when you dress with purpose and wear clothing that you keep finding you get compliments on
10. Having both genders hit on you
11. Getting that kind of a smile with your service

What separates a grown man from a little boy

1. Art. What you have hanging on your wall separates men from the boys. If you have nothing on your walls, that’s boring and basic and doesn’t show personality. But posters and cheap ugly stuff on the walls also make a lousy impression and look like a little kid. Invest in some higher-quality art. You don’t have to buy expensive original pieces, but you can find cool or different items that resonate with you. You can also elevate your space’s aesthetic with inexpensive blankets or some decorative pillows. These are a great way to affordably add another level and layer of complexity and detail to your place.
2. Proper bed. A proper bed is not a futon. A proper bed has a matching bedspread or comforter and sheets. You can never go around with white, which is clean and sexy. Also, keep an eye on the thread count.
3. Aesthetic bathroom. If guests are coming over, ensure your toilet is squeaky clean. Have some wet wipes available. Your towels should also be upgraded so they’re matched and nicer quality. Simple white is perfect. Your hair dryer and his breath should also be upgraded.
4. Organization. Have a leather caddy to drop items you use daily, such as your keys, wallet, watch, cufflinks, and jewelry. You don’t want to throw them on top of a dresser or end table.
5. Plants. Plants are an incredible way of adding freshness and greenery to your space. They also add a personality, indicating you are responsible and reliable.
6. Candles. Candles add ambiance when you have company over. It sets the mood and also allows relaxation and decompression. They are warm and inviting.
7. Speakers. Have the ability to produce background noise in your place. It also makes your place feel more high-end and luxurious. Having low-key background music when people come over makes your house less echoey and sets the mood.
8. Glasses and plates. I’m a big fan of clean, basic white dishes. Have matching plates, cutlery, and glasses (that way, you can serve a cocktail or glass of wine inside real glasses, not Solo cups). Know the difference between white and red wine glasses. You could also invest in some highball glasses for serving cocktails, which would set you apart from 99% of little boys.
9. Rugs. Rugs come in all different sizes, and the cool thing is that even if you have carpet, throwing a small rug on top of it is a great way to add texture and interest to your room. You can also add a pop of color.
10. Sofa or couch. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it needs to be clean. A decent couch is always a good idea because it’s comfortable and a cool place to chill daily. You can work from it, watch TV, make out, and get sexy. Make sure it’s not nasty, dirty, or filthy. If you have animals, make sure it repels moisture.

Critical lessons I learned

• Kindness is better than pretty. I learned this lesson the hard way. I dated a girl one time because she was hot. Unfortunately, she was horrible, and I realized this month after dating her. I also learned that it doesn’t matter how beautiful or spicy a woman is; if they are not a good person, you should not be with them.
• If you act like a pu$$y, you’re going to get fu@#ked. You won’t accomplish anything if you don’t stand up for yourself and grab life by the balls. Life will bend you over and give you the business. Life is not fair, and you’ll get out of it what you put into it.
• The world does not revolve around you. Fear of other people and what they think of us holds most of us back. But once you understand that everybody else is not thinking about you or concerned about your actions, you will be free to take life by the balls and squeeze. You’ll be allowed to make decisions based on what you want.
• How you react to adversity is more important than the act itself. A lot of times we are collateral damage in other people’s lives. Bad things and challenges in our lives add context and meaning. How you handle issues and react to them sets people apart. Put down your baggage so life gets beautiful. Use Better Help to get your life on track and to be happy. Get 10% off your first month of therapy and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
• Money does not buy happiness, but it makes life easier. If you constantly worry about money, taking money off the table improves life. You need to figure out a way not to be broke. Join me at the White Label Mpire for a supportive community, course info for starting your side hustle, coaching sessions, and more. Keep in mind that having money doesn’t mean you’ll always be happy, however. Don’t chase external validation. Practice gratitude.
• Your health is your most valuable asset. Without it, nothing else matters. Protect it. Don’t smoke weed, don’t drink excessively, and stop doing self-destructive things. Eat healthy foods, exercise, and invest in yourself.
• Invest your time wisely. If you do, you’ll get further ahead than your friends. Stop surfing social media and watching p***.
• Not all friends are good for you. Outgrowing friends is essential. Surround yourself with people who are uplifting and moving in the right direction. These people need to cheer you on when you’re successful as well. Make sure people are not holding you back from your dream. Don’t kiss other people’s asses, either.
• Respect yourself. You need to respect your time, body, and mind. Exercise daily, get 8 hours of sleep, and drink 120 oz of water. How you live will dictate where you end up, and it’s nobody else’s responsibility.
• Do better. If you’re unhappy or think you’re not where you need to be, put in the time and effort required to get there. Do the work. Remember that failure is a good thing. Embrace it as part of the process and understand that until you’re truly pushing yourself and sometimes failing, you’ll never know the next thing you should do. Failure is an opportunity to learn and pick yourself up. It’ll make you stronger.

Keep in mind the world does not revolve around you. As soon as you understand this, you’ll free yourself from the pressure of feeling like everybody is judging you. When you want to do something different, take the chance.

Also, do not allow fear of what others are thinking about you to hold you back. They’re not thinking about you as much as you think they are. They are too worried about their own issues and insecurities. Take your shot and do what you’ve wanted to because you only have one shot at this life. Never apologize for living your dream.

1. A healthy diet. If you want to eat healthy, it doesn’t matter if it makes others uncomfortable. If you choose to eat clean and healthy, and they don’t, you don’t have to apologize. Further, if people who are drinking want to criticize you for not drinking, you may want to not hang out with them. Drinking can be self-destructive. Also, drunk people are super annoying. You don’t have to apologize for not drinking.
2. Success. You should be proud of yourself for success but don’t have to apologize or play it down. This doesn’t mean to boast or brag, but you don’t need to make an excuse for your success.
3. Who you love. You don’t need to apologize for who you love or where you stick your weiner. You should not feel wrong for loving whoever you want to love, whether it’s a man, a woman, an older woman, or a big-ass woman. Embrace it.
4. Your choices. Do not let other people’s opinions affect your choices. You have one life, and you make the best decisions for you. Choose how you live now.
5. Looking amazing. Never apologize for wanting to look amazing, dressing well, having fantastic hair, and spending time taking care of yourself. I take care of my face through a few steps. Tiege Hanley uncomplicatedly has them all, including face wash, exfoliating, and moisturizing twice a day.
6. Your opinion and saying ‘no’. Never apologize for your opinion unless you find out it was wrong or if it was a mistake. Nothing is more confident than when you own a mistake or come back and say that you are sorry. Also, you should never apologize for saying no. You should not be a people pleaser and say yes to everything. You need to stand up for yourself and not be a nice guy.
7. Changing. Whether you change your hair, facial hair, style, job, career, partner, or whatever, never apologize for growing or doing something different. Make sure you step out of the box because a box is constricting and constraining. Don’t worry about what other people think; try new things.

1. Give compliments. Complimenting people will make them feel great about themselves and have them look at you as more attractive and confident. Insecure or arrogant people do not compliment others because they are too busy trying to get attention for themselves.
2. Grow a beard. You will look sexier and feel more confident. It will help strengthen a jawline, and spicy senoritas are drawn to men with beards.
3. Stand up straight. Walk like you mean it. Non-verbal communication changes you from the outside in. Seeing somebody walking confidently automatically sends a message that they are not someone to mess with.
4. Make eye contact. Eye contact will instantly make you look more confident and feel more powerful. If you are not afraid to look somebody in the eye, it sends the message that you are confident. Combined with a smile and a firm handshake, you are the man to be taken seriously.
5. Smile. Get into the habit of smiling at other people to look friendlier, more engaging, and more confident.
6. Dress better. People notice when you are dressing one level above everyone else. You will appear more attractive and more confident. Pay attention to your style because it’s critical. Dress with intention and purpose.
7. Maintain grooming. You automatically transcend to the lurking inner beast if you have a white smile, well-maintained facial hair, and clean & neat eyebrows. 
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9. Develop financial success. Set a budget. Know how much money is coming in and going out, and fix imbalances. Don’t buy crap, and make sure you’re not impulse buying. Develop financial freedom by pushing down the urge to buy something immediately.
10. Wear boots. Boots make you taller, and they’re stylish. You can also wear a higher hairstyle to make you look taller.
11. Wear clothing that fits. Clothing that fits your body will make you look visually taller. Dark colors will make you look thinner and more muscular.
12. Take care of your temple. Engage in a good diet and fitness. Working out and caring for your body will make you feel amazing and more confident. Better diet decisions will also make you look better naked, automatically making you feel more confident.

That said, I want to talk more about friendship, specifically people you should avoid. The inspiration for this video came from my White Label Mpire Community, where the support, encouragement, and group are amazing. Everybody is cheering each other and uplifting everybody. It’s so inspiring. These are the people you need to surround yourself with.

I met Antonio Centeno under similar circumstances. Being an entrepreneur is a lonely road, and I wasn’t surrounded by other people who understood what I was going through. When I met Antonio, he showed me we were not each other’s competition and that we could help each other. Everything started to get better.

You’ll never achieve what you could if you surround yourself with people who bring you down and hold you back. These people will be holding you down. You should avoid negative people at all costs. Who you surround yourself with will dictate where you end up in life. If you surround yourself with losers or people who have poor character, you will be held back. 

When you shed the deadweight and outgrow these people, you can surround yourself with uplifting and amazing people who are your friends and support you. These people will cheer you on when you’re successful and help you achieve greatness.

Here’s the deadweight you should shed: 

1. Narcissists. These people are only concerned about themselves. They think the world revolves around them, and there’s no room for them to love or respect others.
2. Cheaters. Cheaters’ behavior can manifest in different ways. A lot of times, they’re going to use you as an excuse. Also, do you want to surround yourself with someone unwilling to do the hard work? It’s not acceptable to cheat or mess around.
3. Pessimists. They see the worst and everything and are always blaming and complaining and bitching. They feel that life is out of their control — they are enemy vampires who suck the life out of everything. They will rob you of your positive energy bandwidth.
4. Losers. This broad term refers to those who are not motivated and are okay with being average. You may have grown up with some of these people, and you must outgrow them because of their self-destructive nature and loser mindset.
5. Gossipers. They’re always talking crap behind people’s backs.
6. Liars. You may catch someone in ‘insignificant’ white lies, but if somebody’s lying to you, it means they don’t respect you or something’s happening with them. Little white lies could potentially become significant big things.
7. Untrustworthy. If you don’t trust somebody around money or your woman, it’s not okay. It may not have happened yet, but it will.
8. Jealous or competitive. Someone who’s super jealous or is not happy for you when you achieve, or if they’re always trying to compete with you, they do not want to grow together with you.
9. Assholes. This person is always a jerk to others. They’re also mean to their girlfriends, servers, or their parents. They are nasty.
10. Unreliable. These people do not adhere to what they say they will do. They are not men of their word and will cancel plans last minute or make excuses not to do things.
11. Energy vampires. These people always have problems and issues. When you give them advice, they don’t take it. They will suck the life out of you.
12. Don’t take ownership of their actions. These people don’t take responsibility and play the blame game. When they make a mistake, they don’t own it.
13. Dumb. These people do not seek knowledge, and they do not look at other people’s opinions. They are one-dimensional and closed-minded. Everything is black and white. Life has a lot of gray areas, so you need to be around people who can constructively think and analyze situations. If someone is rigid and regimented in their belief or ideology, you must eliminate them.
14. Lacking of integrity. If somebody in your life robs, cheats, and isn’t a good person, they should not be your friend. Surround yourself with those who love and support you. You need quality people that are moving in the right direction.

Factors that make men attractive at a deeper level

1. Having humility. If you’re humble with a modest view of your importance, this is incredibly sexy. In a world where everybody is boasting about how amazing they are and how they’re all kicking ass, low-key humble is sexy.
2. Standing up for yourself. If you’re not a people pleaser or a puss, you’re automatically more attractive. People will automatically respect you more if you have principles and stand up for them.
3. Doing nice things. Doing for others boosts your self-esteem and confidence while making you look good. When we see people doing things nice for others, we automatically think the person is more attractive.
4. Having discipline. Instant gratification is rampant. Having discipline and the ability to focus when things aren’t fun or exciting will automatically make you more attractive. It also makes you more productive.
5. Being financially successful. Women will be more prone to date a financially stable man with potential than one who isn’t but is better looking. Make sure that you are financially successful. Get yourself a side hustle by checking out the White Label Mpire Community.
6. Letting your ego go. You need to learn from people who are better than you. Accept help from others who are better than you and know more than you. You will grow professionally and personally and become more attractive because you’ve expanded your knowledge base.
7. Being even-tempered. Don’t be a mess and get mad when you can stay calm and cool under pressure, making you automatically more attractive. When you freak out and get emotional, such as in anger, you’ve allowed your emotions to rule your actions. You aren’t thinking things through clearly and calmly. You’ll make better decisions by calming yourself and thinking things through before taking action. You will also be viewed as more attractive.
8. Talking to strangers. Making conversation is a skill. Being able to meet and engage with people and take it deeper makes you more attractive because you’re open and vulnerable. Ensure you drop the act and not pretend you’re something you’re not. Being real makes you more attractive because you’re authentic. Being authentic makes people feel more special, and your attraction level is boosted when you’re interested in others.
9. Having manners. Saying yes ma’am, yes sir, and thank you is easy to do and will automatically make you respected. You indicate that you value what people have said or did. Make sure you open the door for others, and if the door is open for you, make sure you say thank you.
10. Being loyal and faithful. Don’t flirt, and don’t take the bait. Automatically, you will be the sexiest dude in the room.

Bad habits you need to break.

1. Hanging out with losers. If you’re ready to level up your life, you must surround yourself with higher-quality people. It’s okay to outgrow people, which this step is a struggle for many men. You need to break away from these people and break the cycle.
2. Not having a clear and defined goal. You need to have a direction — if you’re unsure of where you’re going in life, you must create a plan. That plan will change and adjust as you start your journey, but you must have a North Star.
3. Not being able to communicate appropriately. If you’re using filler words or cursing excessively, you need to master communication. You should also master texting and speaking on the phone effectively.
4. Being obsessive about technology consumption. If you spend a lot of time on devices, you’re wasting time. It also destroys dopamine levels. You get a shot of dopamine every time you’re surfing porn or spanking Big Al. This dopamine release will make you lazy and waste time — and as you know, time is your most valuable resource.
5. Neglecting your health. It doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to be healthier. Implement a few basic things, such as 30 minutes of lifting + cardio + flexibility, drinking 120 oz of water daily, and eating healthier. Use AG1 for your micronutrients.
6. Not getting enough sleep. If you do not sleep enough, you won’t look good, feel good, or be optimal.
7. Sleeping around. You could potentially get somebody pregnant, and then you’ll have a kid when you’re not ready to. This will impact your ability to get ahead in life. You also could potentially get an STD. Make sure you wrap that rascal.
8. Dressing like crap. When you take pride in your appearance, you will feel better about yourself, and others will respect you. You have three seconds to make an impression. If that impression is bad because your style sucks, you’re going to have to work exponentially harder to prove yourself.
9. Projecting a poor image on social media. Don’t post things that are not respectable and are irresponsible. You don’t want to shoot yourself in the foot just because you think it’s funny to post pictures of you doing something stupid. These posts could impact your dating, potential relationships, employment, and more.
10. Procrastinating. Do not wait for perfect timing because it doesn’t exist. Take action, and don’t be afraid of doing hard work. Hard work is essential and critical to success. But this does not mean being a people pleaser. Feel free to have an opinion, but don’t be a dummy. Make sure you’re educating yourself and seeking knowledge. You will stagnate and not progress if you do not learn something new daily.

In my 30s, I decided it was time to get my sh!t together. I felt like if I kept going down the road that I was on, I wasn’t going to be around in my 40s — and I didn’t want to die. I also would not be happy, healthy, and successful. That said, I want to share some of the steps I took to get my life together.

Steps I took to turn my life around

1. Stopped drinking & tobacco. I stopped drinking, but I also stopped nicotine. I loved chewing tobacco, but I was embarrassed and tried to hide it. It was wildly addictive, and I was worried I was going to get mouth cancer. I didn’t have the willpower to quit, but when I stopped drinking, I stopped using nicotine because drinking was one of the triggers.
2. Filed for bankruptcy. I was trying to make a business work using my credit cards to pay the staff. I had over half a million dollars worth of debt when the business went down. After filing for bankruptcy, my philosophy was that I would never spend if I couldn’t afford to pay cash, and I swore that I would never get into debt again.
3. Found a new direction. In my 20s, all I wanted to do was own a fitness center, but as I moved into my 30s, I realized I had to give up that dream. We often chase something longer than we should, which is not good because time is our most valuable asset.
4. Forgive myself. I forgave myself for not being perfect and for my mistakes in my 20s. I also forgave others and decided I wanted to be happy. If you’re sick and tired of letting your past hold you back, or you’re not feeling the way that you should feel, you need to seek help. One of the reasons I love therapy so much, which I’ve used throughout different phases and points in my life, is my life leveling up as a result. You deserve to be happy! Go to Better Help for 10% off your first month of therapy and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
5. Took action. Instead of thinking and planning, I took action. I found the path I ended up taking with image consulting and my YouTube channel because I was willing to take action. I didn’t allow fear of the unknown or failure to get in my way. One action will lead to another action.
6. Found a good partner. I found a good woman, and I locked it down. Finding my wife was one of the pivotal moments of my life when everything started to get better and scale. I would have never been successful if I stayed single because I spent too much time and energy worrying about sex, women, and so forth. Getting that off the table allowed me to be more creative and focused.
7. Found better friends. When I quit drinking, I stopped hanging out with some of the people that I was hanging out with and partying. I ended up networking, and I found my tribe.
8. Got life moving in the right direction. In my 30s, I took extreme ownership of my life, direction, and happiness. We often blame other people or think issues and challenges are someone else’s fault. When you accept that your destiny is your responsibility and nobody is coming to save you, you’ll be successful and move forward faster. You’ll be happier, more self-confident, and more self-assured.

Disenfranchised men

One of the problems with cancel culture is it causes a vast community of men to feel disenfranchised and lost. You are not bad for being a man — quite the opposite. You’re amazing. There’s nothing wrong with being male or masculine. There’s nothing wrong with being feminine, either. If you want to be a dude, if you want to be something else, or if you want to identify as something else, I don’t care.

As a man in today’s crazy world, you should be focused on doing things that will help you improve your life. A real man doesn’t have time to worry about other people. Real men are not oppressing anyone. One of the problems with woke canceled culture is that people are trying to convince the world that men are bad, oppressive, and doing terrible things.

Disagree? You’re the enemy!

If we disagree with them, we are the enemy. If we disagree with them, they’ll come after us. They’re going to cancel us. Men get scared. They see what’s happening to some of the people who are getting destroyed because they disagree with the ideals of the super ultra-liberals.

The other reality is that you can’t argue with them. This is something that I learned a long time ago: don’t try to convince somebody who believes something different from you to believe something else. It’s a waste of time. Instead, focus on you. Focus on me the best you can possibly be, and do not apologize for being a man or for having an opinion that’s different from someone else.

Also, don’t go the other way. You have the woke, cancel culture on one side, with the media included. Then, on the other side, you have these crazy conservatives where the manosphere is pissed off at women and trying to make them the enemy. Women aren’t the enemy. If you’re not happy or successful, the problem is you, not them. Many men are sheep, blindly following somebody and listening to idiots who are saying that women are the problem.

The world’s commodity = your attention

Attention in today’s world is a commodity. People are trying to convince you to believe what they’re telling you. You need to think for yourself and ensure you have your resources straight. Too many people rely on their jobs and other people for funding, and if you do something counter to their culture, you’ll be gone. And then you’ll be broke.

If you genuinely want to be a man, you need to be self-sufficient and have your own money coming in via multiple income streams. Get my free business blueprint of how I started Pete & Pedro, which grew from a $3,000 investment to $9 million this last year. I’ll teach you how to do it. You can also get involved in the community and receive my personal attention. I’m sharing my resources, collateral, and curriculum.

Don’t listen to the noise

Make sure you don’t listen to the noise. If you’re consuming media, don’t let it rot your brain. Don’t believe the hype. Understand there’s an agenda for both sides. Be a critical thinker in today’s world and have principles.

Make sure you have moral character and integrity. Set yourself apart from other men, and don’t allow others to convince you otherwise. Keep your head down and focus on what you can do, knowing you cannot control others. The only person that you can control in this world is you. Don’t waste time scrolling; instead, focus on what it means to care for yourself physically and mentally. Make sure you’re straight financially. Avoid the noise, and don’t follow the herd.

Many of us think we’re cool because we look around and see our friends; they’re in the same place. But are they where you want to be? It’s time to man up and grab Life by the balls. Make these changes, and everything in your life will get better. Life will move in the right direction, and you will realize your potential because the truth is that every one of you has unlimited potential. You deserve a happy, healthy, and successful life by doing what I will discuss.

Indicators that you are not where you need to be

1. Not being happy. If you don’t get up in the morning excited and are pumped to do what the day has in store, there’s a problem. Many of us listen to the wrong people and let others dictate our direction. So we end up going down that road. Unfortunately, when we do, we haven’t listened to ourselves, and we’re living a life for somebody else. Ultimately, you’ll get to 40 to 50 years old and realize you’re unhappy where you are. Do not be that guy.
2. Being too much debt. Too much debt will rob you of your joy and happiness. You must fix the situation, whether it means getting a second job or living with your parents. Make sure you have a plan to get out of debt to be financially free.
3. Neglecting yourself physically. You must take care of your body and protect it like it’s your temple because your health is your most valuable asset.
4. Kissing people’s asses. If you’re a people pleaser, you’re not true to yourself. Nobody respects someone who kisses other people’s asses.
5. Not respecting yourself. You’re not in a good place if you’re doing self-destructive things. You need to stop. Also, who you surround yourself with will indicate and dictate where you go in life. Ditch the loser guys who are partying and drinking. Surround yourself with entrepreneurs or others who inspire you. Check out the Alpha Mpire Community and surround yourself with others who have your best interest in mind. You can share ideas, network, and go after your dreams.
6. Being with the wrong people. If you know deep down that this person is not suitable for you because they’re not uplifting or they’re not the person you need to be with, you need to have that hard conversation. You don’t want to live with regrets. Further, you shouldn’t depend on others for your happiness and self-worth. Nowadays, it is widespread for people to get validation from social media. You also shouldn’t be living for somebody else and don’t need a girlfriend to feel like a man. You also don’t need people around you all the time. If you feel confident and secure, you will be comfortable enough to be alone and enjoy your own company.
7. Feeling anxiety and stress. It’s never too late to take opportunities in front of you — you’re never too old. Age is just a number. If you are anxious or stressed, do what you need to do to fix it. Have hard conversations, get a second job, get a better job, and deal with your past. You cannot outrun the trauma that happened to you. You need to fight.

Remember that once you gain respect, you must continue to do what you did to get there. Live a virtuous life, not worry about other people’s actions, don’t put others down for being different, and be respectable. Be willing to put in the hard work and not expect handouts. Respect means not bitching and complaining about life not being fair. Go out and grab your destiny, and people will personally respect you.

Why I respect you

1. Communicates well. Communication can automatically make people respect you more or less. People will lose respect for you because you sound ignorant if you use many filler words. If you’re cussing a lot regularly, this also makes people not respect you, as you will seem unintelligent. Effective and clear communication also goes for what you say digitally. The more you practice, the better you’ll get. You need to undo some of the bad habits that you developed.
2. Physique. People respect you based on your muscularity or if you’re overly fat. You don’t want to look sloppy because that will automatically make people lose respect for you; they think you don’t care about yourself or value yourself the way you should. Suppose you see somebody with a nice physique, musculature, and low body fat. In that case, that shows the person respects and takes care of themselves physically.
3. Dresses and grooms. Your respect level will drop if you’re sloppy and your grooming is a whack. But on the flip side, if you are well-groomed and have good hygiene, people will respect you more—the same thing with style. If you dress with pride in your appearance, you’ll gain respect. But if you’re dressing sloppy and lazy, people will not waste time on you.
4. Toughness and resilience. How you handle yourself in challenging situations will dictate how much respect people will have for you. Suppose you’re tough emotionally and mentally when life throws obstacles at you. In that case, you will overcome adversity, and people will look at you with respect. Stand up for yourself, and don’t allow other people to treat you poorly.
5. Manners. Good manners should be taught more. You need to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you,’ ‘yes sir’ and ‘yes ma’am,’ open the door for people, and let people walk through first. Manners will teach people how to treat you and respect you.
6. Financial stability. You don’t need to drive a Lambo but must be financially stable. I’ve been broken and not broke, and not broke is a lot better. I respect myself more, others respect me more, and my self-esteem and confidence are stronger. Feeling good about yourself is impossible if you’re stressed out about cash. Everybody should have a side hustle and not have all their eggs in one financial basket. I have a free white label blueprint for those wanting to walk through how to start their side hustle. I want you to steal it from me. Join me for the Alpha Mpire course, where I coach and mentor every week. The community comes along with it, filled with inspiring guys.
7. Take chances. People will respect you if you’re willing to take risks for success. It’s sad when people fear taking chances and going after what they want. Fear of failure holds people back and reduces people’s respect for you. The only way that you can grow is to make mistakes. Think about where you would be if you started the first time you thought about getting a better job, starting a side hustle, or investing in something. Don’t stay stuck. If you want respect, go out and get it.

One hundred heterosexual women were polled, who said they didn’t care about size. As dudes, we care about size because we are fans of watching ‘the movies.’ We see these guys who are hung like mythical beasts and think that this is normal or even average. According to research, 5.1 to 5.5 inches when hard is technically average. So if you’re between five and five and a half, you’re aces. Now. the truth is size is not equal because 80% of women said thickness is more important than length.

Insecure about your size? Options include

If you are insecure about your size, there are surgical options, one of which takes a silicone sleeve and implants it. Unfortunately, it’s costly. There’s also a lengthening surgery, in which the ligament is cut. Extenders are another option but dangerous as you’re stretched over time. Jelqing is also another way, which is milking when your semi. Usually, this is combined with some pumping. A pump also is an option. I’ve used Bathmate and talked about it in numerous videos.

Realize it’s not just these positions that I will review that enhance her experience. It’s also about her finding that ‘OH.’ It’s not just about hammering away — it’s also about stimulating her and visiting Brenda downtown.

Seven Best Positions for the Modest Stature

1. Doggy style– to take it further, I have her put her legs together between yours.
2. Cowgirl – this is her being on top. Hold her hips and let her do her thing.
3. Face off – she straddles you, and you’re face-to-face. Lean back, and you’re even bigger.
4. Seashell – this requires flexibility. See the pic.
5. Standing – this takes coordination and strength.
6. Knees to chest – on her back with her knees up and legs together.
7. Spork – a hybrid between a spoon and a fork. You can go a lot deeper because her leg is up.

On the other hand, the other choice is for people who are willing to take chances and risks. These people are not afraid to be uncomfortable and break the rules. At the end of that road are your wildest dreams and the best man you can be. Which road are you willing to take?

Nothing great in life is guaranteed. You have to be willing to fail, and you need to be willing to take chances. You don’t want to look back at your life and think about everything you didn’t go after. To me, that’s tragic, and that is the life I choose not to live. I will fail and mess things up, but I won’t live a life of regret. The journey is long and arduous, but in the end, it’s fantastic.

Rules to live an exceptional life

1. Transparency. Be as transparent as possible with your intentions and emotions. We can act and resonate with people we feel are vulnerable and honest because we can sniff out sh!t. Unfortunately, 99% of people put up a wall and act like something better than they are.
2. Dare to be different. Super ultra-successful people are different because they’ve taken chances and risks and are quirky. Challenge the status quo and not be afraid to be yourself. Be willing to be different.
3. Be willing to fail. Do not think of a failure as a negative. If you ever expect to reach that ultimate dream, you must be willing to fail because it’s part of the process. Many people fear trying because they fear failure.
4. Don’t wait for perfect timing. Perfect timing doesn’t exist. It’s all about risk-taking and taking calculated risks. The truth is nothing ever great was accomplished because it was easy. You need to push down fear and be willing to push down that voice in your head telling me you can’t. You can live a life different than small-minded people, but you have surrounded yourself with. This is your journey and purpose. Decide your path, which will define your success.
5. Work for yourself. Successful people either have a great side hustle or they work for themselves. Side hustles typically start as a side project, but you can grow them into a full-time gig. Skillshare has some badass resources to help you with your side hustle. Their courses, classes, and tutorials detail every aspect of side hustle businesses. Click to receive a one-month free trial of Skillshare.
6. Good things do not come to those who wait. If you think you will sit on your hands and wait for a handout for something extraordinary, you will wait your entire life. If you want something, you need to speak up, take it, and not allow life to hand you sloppy seconds.
7. Don’t be a good little sheep. Society wants you to sit down and shut up. It’s time for you to get up and speak up. Tell the world what you want and what you need. Success favors The bold and people who are willing to take chances. Society doesn’t want that because they want you to be dependent and stuck.
8. Challenge the status quo. The world is full of sheep, but it needs more leaders. The world needs more independent thinkers and those willing to take risks because success favors the bold. Be willing to go out for what you want and not worry about other people’s thoughts. You only have one shot in this life and must decide how to live it. Do not allow somebody else’s preconceived notions or inability to think outside the box to dictate where you go in life. This includes your parents and loved ones. This is not their life, it’s yours. You have a 100% control over it.

The start of alpha m.

Something unique happened; I found my voice. I also found a community of people who loved and appreciated me. I was hooked. From that point, my vision of success changed. It used to be a chain of fitness centers, but now it’s what makes me feel complete, valued, and worthy.

I felt insignificant and less than others for most of my life because I grew up without. I didn’t have much money, but YouTube allowed me to find my voice and community and feel better about myself. That’s what I wanted for you as well — to feel better about yourself and your confidence. My goal was simple. It was to help viewers feel confident through personal presentation, fitness, and grooming through this YouTube resource.

The alpha m. YouTube channel was built for the younger me. I had struggled my entire life with confidence, and if I could help one person feel better about themselves, that was my goal. I kept posting, and over the years, I kept posting. Whenever I meet up with one of you in person, it is amazing and inspiring. In fact, I just met two people at the gym yesterday who told me how I help them through difficult times. These interactions resonate with me.

Where do I fit?

The other day, I realized my role and purpose for you guys had changed. Some who used to watch me don’t watch me anymore because they’ve moved on to their next life phase. I’m trying to find out where I fit on the internet and in the world of YouTube because I’m not ultra-controversial, I have a positive message, and I’m never going to be Jose or Alex.

What hit me is that I know how to make money, and that’s the missing piece. You will only truly feel fantastic about yourself once you figure out how to be financially free. No matter how many videos I do about looking good, grooming, and dressing well, you need to be financially free to be confident.

Alpha Mpire

This is why I started Alpha Mpire YouTube channel. I want to help you with the next phase of life to become financially successful. My financial journey will differ from yours, but I’ve learned a lot after opening 20-plus businesses over the years. I found one model that’s easy to start because it doesn’t require a lot of capital and is easy with marketing and advertising. It’s low-risk, and it’s called white labeling.

I have started several businesses with white labeling, and the business model is the same. I’m giving it away for free. My goal is to help you get rich by helping you build a white label business from ideation to store set-up to marketing to selling products. I have your blueprint if you click here. Also, join the Mpire Community, a course that covers granular step-by-step topics. All the guesswork is taken out with incorporating, Shopify & paid marketing tutorials, influencer tips, and more.

Additionally, I also created a community, and that’s where the magic happens. Everybody who joins Mpire can come together to talk, share, and help each other. I’m in there every day to chat, and I am also doing live training weekly for 2 hours. I’m walking through the curriculum and answering business questions. I’ll help each and every one of you build your own private white label empire. This is the greatest thing I’ve ever done and will be my legacy.

Join me and take control of your financial future

If you’re serious about taking control of your financial future and destiny, hit the link below and watch the video. It will walk you through and explain everything. I’ll also give you a free step-by-step blueprint for building a white label company from scratch. If you want more information or to join the community, hit the link and join. I’m incredibly excited and passionate. I want to thank you for hanging out with me for so long.

1. Eat higher quality meat — eat organic whenever possible to avoid the hormones injected into the meat, which are bad for your endocrine system. Also, avoid processed meats like lunch, deli, and hot dogs. These are filled with nitrates, salts, and preservatives, which are bad for your body.
2. Reduce sugar consumption — sugar spikes insulin levels and increases body fat percentage. But don’t substitute sugar with artificial sweeteners because aspartame, for example, increases the development of prostate cancer by 50%.
3. Ditch toxic drinks— ditch sugary drinks like frappuccinos, energy drinks, and diet sodas. Add lemon to water, which tastes great and is a natural diuretic.
4. Take a multivitamin — Ritual Essential for Men is my go-to multivitamin (and has been for years). It has traceable micronutrients, and the nutrients are absorbable. You should take a  multivitamin daily. And, for a limited time, get 40% off your first Ritual order.
5. Care for your gut health — Good bacteria are critical for gut health because they help break down food, turning it into nutrients your body can use. I take Ritual Symbitic Plus, which is a pre-, pro-, and post- biotic — excellent for your gut health.
6. Get outside in the morning — get sunshine early in the day to reset and calibrate your circadian rhythm. This action will also help you feel good and boost your mood. Combine it with a bit of cardio, too!
7. Sleep 7-8 hours nightly — you need solid slumber to kickass in life and feel amazing.
8. Spend less phone time — less time surfing will benefit you in a positive way. Also, cut out the nasty movies, which can make you feel bad about yourself and give you less motivation. These movies can also interfere with your relationship, and you will find women more beautiful.
9. Pay attention to Big Al — you should either solo or with your partner do it at least 21 times per month to reduce future prostate issues.
10. Use your brain daily — learn something new and never stay stagnant to stay sharp and more positive.
11. Reset your dopamine — get rid of social media apps or at least remove them from your home screen. We have gotten conditioned to have dopamine artificially extracted from unhealthy means — by removing apps and spending less time surfing and on the movies, you can recalibrate your brain by not being inundated with sh!tty stuff. You will become more motivated and pumped to do cool things.
12. Take care of your mental health — go to therapy, get rid of toxic people, and surround yourself with people who have your best interests in mind.
13. **BONUS** — spend time with people who love you and make you feel good about yourself. This will improve your mood and, in turn, increase your health. When you feel good, everything else feels better.