Today’s sugar-coated world

I am thankful I didn’t grow up with the internet or in today’s world. If you wanted a trophy, you had to earn it. When people are better than you, you have to deal with it. Life wasn’t sugar-coated, and people were not blowing smoke up everyone’s asses to make them feel included.

Nowadays, everybody wants to feel good; nothing is wrong with that. But if you want to win, you have to make it happen and put in the work. There’s no blaming somebody else for you not making it.

Instant gratification is not the way the world works. If you want something, you need to work for it. You will appreciate it more when it’s not handed to you.

Stop using your age as an excuse for not achieving anything. Age doesn’t matter. The internet has changed the game and the world. Anyone can be successful if they’re motivated.

When you’re in the mindset that you think that any of this is normal or that you’re special or that somebody is going to come to rescue you, you’ll never get off your ass and do something extraordinary.

The ease of starting a side hustle

Starting a side hustle has literally never been easier. You can take somebody else’s idea, strategy, or blueprint and copy it for yourself. You have to be willing to put in the time and work.

Today, you must ask yourself whether you will be fine being average and coasting. Many people aren’t built to start a business or be an entrepreneur. I would rather risk, fail, and pick myself up instead of never trying in the first place. Don’t fear failure. Fear regret.

You can dress well and be handsome. Still, nothing impacts your confidence like being financially secure and not relying on others. Being financially secure solves problems much easier, and every aspect of your life improves.

That’s why I started the White Label Mpire — to take everyone who wants to join me by the hand and lead them to the front of the line. I have 20 years of experience in business with both successes and failures. And with the internet, if you can figure out how to make a dollar, you can make $10. If you can make $10, you can make $100 and then $100,000+. It’s never been easier.

Today’s society — what are you going to?

Society has become conditioned to think that failure is bad, but failure is beautiful. It means you tried something, and it didn’t work. It’s fine — pick yourself up. These failures build mental strength and character along with integrity. And as far as people judging you, they don’t care about you. They’re worried about themselves. The world does not revolve around you, either.

Society also fears hard work. Our society has become soft, and we’ve become snowflakes. Take control of your destiny and do amazing things.

The truth is that success favors the brave and the bold. Who are you, what do you want to do, what type of man do you want to be, and what kind of life do you want to live? Do you want to play it safe and stay stuck? Or do you want to take action?

As time passes, the relationship gets more complicated and challenging. It also gets more beautiful and amazing when you find someone you’re compatible with. But you must respect each other; without work and communication, it won’t. Here are lessons I learned the hard way.

Lessons I wished I had learned about women sooner

1. Don’t date someone with a low self-esteem. When someone has low self-esteem, it will manifest in unhealthy ways. You don’t want to be the collateral damage in their inability to love themselves.
2. Kindness is better than pretty. I’m not saying that you should be with somebody who is unattractive. Still, even if someone is super sassy and banging, their moral compass and integrity are more important. If you’re interested in somebody who is using their body or looking for a job or money, be careful because this can be tied to self-esteem. Unfortunately, our society gives pretty people a pass. But remember that appearance is a depreciating asset and will fade.
3. Ditch those who are lazy. You should only be with her if she has a good work ethic. A good work ethic benefits your relationship because good relationships take hard work. Both people need to be willing to do the work to be successful. If she’s lazy, she won’t put in the time.
4. Run if she’s a cheater. Once you find out she cheated, run the hell away. Don’t accept apologies or let her talk her way back even though it’s painful. You didn’t fail as a man. There’s no amount of love that you can give somebody who’s fundamentally broken like a cheater. Cheating is not preventable, and you need to stand up for yourself.
5. You have to be happy with yourself. You will not be happy in a relationship until you’re happy with yourself. Often, people will bounce from relationship to relationship when the issue is themselves not making themselves a priority. Build yourself into the man you want to be first. Get the pieces falling into place, and deal with the baggage you have carried from your childhood or past relationships. Therapy is a gift that you give yourself. You deserve to be happy. Get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp therapy and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
6. She doesn’t allow you to have friends or your own life. Your girlfriend should accept that you have your own life and friends. Being with somebody who understands it’s okay to have friends is critical. You are not supposed to morph into one unit in a relationship or a couple. You should have your own goals, dreams, and friends.
7. She has only guy friends, which is a red flag. If guys surround her and she doesn’t have girlfriends, there’s a reason. It’s not normal.
8. She has substance abuse issues or is a bad drunk. It won’t get any better, so run away. It’s not your responsibility to save her. Men like to be the hero, but it’s impossible. If someone is not willing to do the work themselves, there’s nothing that you can do.
9. She disrespects you. (a) You should not be with her if she puts you down, talks down to you, makes fun of you or fights dirty. These are monstrous red flags, and it will not get any better. (b) She keeps you from your family. A relationship is a bad idea if she tries to keep you from seeing your family, and it’s even worse if she has a bad relationship with her family.
10. She tells you who she is. You better listen and not think that you can change them. Also, a relationship is a commitment, and it is not advisable if you have different views on politics, religion, and other topics. Further, you’re not on the same page sexually (not wanting a physical relationship or using sex as a weapon), this is a warning sign to get out. You need to be on the same page.

I want to go over these six things because I don’t want you to go down the rabbit hole of self-improvement, not thinking that you’re good enough, and constantly worrying that you’re not doing something you should be doing. If you do these six things, you will be ahead of 99.9% of other guys.

The Essential Six

1. Have a nice body. Most guys are sloppy and have doughy dad bodies. Looking around the beach or pool, do you look better than most guys? If the answer is yes, you’re ahead of most people. If not, you must get to the gym and eat better. Clean up your diet and stop being stupid.
2. Dress well. Your style will change the way other people perceive you. It also changes how you perceive yourself when you look in the mirror. If you like what you see, it boosts your confidence and makes you feel better.
3. Effective body language. A strong stance is critical to master and will set you apart from others whose heads are buried in their phones. Stand up straight and walk like you mean it. Shake people’s hands, smile regularly, and look people in the eye. Give out compliments as well. Engage with people and talk with them. Sound confident and be interesting (as well as interested).
4. Well groomed. Make sure your body hair is managed, grow a beard, and clean up your eyebrows and nose hair. If you want to regain your real hair if you’re losing it, visit Bosley.
5. Man of integrity. Are you comfortable in your own skin, or do you put others down? Do you try to act like you’re something you’re not, or are you comfortable being you? Do you follow the herd, or are you your own man? Stand up for what you believe in and be a leader. This will set you apart from others and make you more confident.
6. Good man. (a) Helping others will improve your self-esteem and confidence. Look for opportunities to assist others, making you look more attractive and confident. It’s good for your soul and will bring you happiness. Happiness should be the goal for everyone. Feel good about life and the man you are. (b) Being a good man doesn’t mean you’re a nice guy or a people pleaser. It doesn’t mean that you’re kissing people’s asses. Have a good moral compass, be a man of integrity, and do what’s right.

Thirty-Day Plan Out of the Friend Zone

• Avoid this person for 30 days. Ghost her completely, and don’t post anything on social media. Create space. Stop being readily available. Don’t always be there.
• Dress better and modify your style. Ensure your clothing fits, and buy strategic items (jeans, T-shirt, jacket, underwear). Get rid of the little boy underwear and upgrade to Sheath. Enjoy a special 20% discount on your total order. The code is automatically applied when you click the link. But if it does not work, use code alpha2024 at checkout.
• Up your grooming game. Grow your facial hair, get a better haircut, fix your face with a solid skincare routine, bleach your teeth, get a new fragrance
• Tighten up your diet and fitness. Reduce your carbs and stop eating processed junk. Drink 120 oz of water per day. Get to the gym or workout at home (calisthenics like push-ups) daily.
• Look for (3) daily opportunities to do something nice or kind for someone else. This will make you and the other person feel good, which will help your self-esteem.
• Say ‘yes’ to every social invite. Hang out with friends, meet new people, and get active. Practice your social skills.
• Reintroduce yourself to social media after four (4) weeks. Post pictures of the fun things you’ve done and how you look happy, stylish, and sexy.
• Send a couple of texts to that person — something like “Hey! I saw something that made me think of you today.” or “Hey, stranger! I was wondering if you could help me out with something.” This is a powerful psychological move when you ask for help, as it connects you a bit deeper. You could also ask for advice on a dating problem (real or fabricated), which will get her started thinking about you differently.
• Don’t wait too long to escalate it to a date. One reason guys get friend-zoned is waiting too long to escalate. It can be simple: Tell her you want to try a bar or restaurant. Then, ask her if she’s been there. When she says ‘no’, suggest you two go on Saturday.
• If she still considers you a friend after this 30-day plan, realize you have enough friends and don’t waste more time. Besides, your sex appeal is through the roof after completing these 30 days.

That said, I’d like to share some of my habits, some of which can be weird. These habits set you up for success and lead to a stronger mindset. These, in turn, will lead to more opportunities because you’re willing to take chances and risks. All of this translates into making more money.

My weird habits for success

1. Being selfish. When it comes to my time, I am selfish. I am obsessively selfish, specifically regarding my exercise and fitness. If I don’t start my day with cardio or working out, I am sh!t the rest of the day. My mind isn’t right, so fitness is not negotiable. I don’t schedule meetings or calls during that time. I also have a strict schedule to the point that I am boring. I am a creature of habit that does the same thing every single day, and it never changes. I genuinely feel like this is one of the things that has allowed me to be super successful because I am boring.
2. Being a homebody. I don’t go out with my friends, I don’t party, and I don’t drink alcohol. Refraining from alcohol is one of the reasons I’ve been successful. Consistently engaging in self-destructive behavior, whether it’s looking at p^rn, drinking, smoking, or smoking weed, you’re not at your best. You will become more successful when you eliminate self-destructive behaviors.
3. Who I am associating with. (a) Finding the right woman has helped me. I’ve been with her for 20 years and am the luckiest guy in the world. I am with somebody who can deal with me and who loves me. We are not perfect, but we are perfect together. When you stop chasing girls, you can focus and not think about women. When I was thinking about women, I was running around, drinking a lot, and going out all the time. I was always looking for dates through online dating services, which was all-consuming. When you take all of that off the table, you can focus on other things that matter. (b) Having better friends. Who you surround yourself with (your tribe) makes a huge difference in helping you move in a positive direction, facilitate healthy conversations, and inspire you to improve. Shed the dead weight of those who pull you down and hold you back.
4. Taking risks. I am willing to take risks, and if you ever expect to be successful, you also need to push down that fear and negative voice in the back of your head. One of my biggest motivators is trying to prove something to my young and insecure self. I have started over 20 businesses, and some of them have failed. Some are successful, such as Pete & Pedro, making $10 million this year. My newest venture, White Label Mpire, features a community where I am helping people start businesses. I am making millionaires in that group, and it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. I welcome you if you’d like to join us.
5. Not waiting for perfect timing. There is no such thing as perfect timing — and you can never fully be prepared. If you want it, go get it. Jump! Success happens to those who take action versus people who just think about it. Sure, don’t take uncalculated risks, but you need to trust yourself at some point and be willing to take control of your life. Successful people are not the ones who play it safe. They take more significant risks for the bigger reward. Nothing great was ever accomplished because it was easy or safe. Get uncomfortable.
6. Being uncomfortable. Whenever everything is going well, I need to do something different because I know I’m not being challenged whenever I feel complacent. I love to have hardship, and that has helped me. I love to embrace being uncomfortable, and it makes me dig deep. I refocus.
7. Working every day. I want to debunk a myth. It says that once you find something you love doing, you’ll never work another day. That’s crap. I love what I do, but I work every day. I also try not to mess things up. I always look at myself in the mirror when I get up and say the same thing: don’t f^ck it up today. Every one of us is one or two bad decisions from being broke or in jail. Every day, I’m thankful I’m happy and healthy, and I remember my failures. I feel that if I don’t keep running every day, my failures will catch up with me. I know this is a bit weird and twisted, but that is the fire and passion that keeps me motivated.
8. Being vain. I care tremendously about my looks; many think it’s self-centered. But it makes me feel good about myself and puts me ahead of others. Life is competitive, and it’s never been a more competitive time. You need every advantage because competition is coming to eat your lunch. I care about my personal packaging, including style, grooming, body language, and appearance. When you start dressing better, it’s a sign of respect. It means you respect yourself & others and demonstrates you can be taken seriously. Look, if two people show up for the same job, and one is dressed well and is groomed while the other is not, who do you think gets the job, even if the sloppy guy is a little more qualified? And who do you think gets the girl? If you take care of yourself, you get the advantages.

Don’t let these behaviors hold you back!

1. No boundaries. This is very important and one of the most attractive traits that a man can possess. If you’re always available and open, you’re constantly allowing people to take advantage of you, which indicates to other people that you have low value. Set personal boundaries for people and situations.
2. Fake nice behavior. This behavior is typical for nice guys. They make nice gestures or kind things with ulterior motives. Just be a good dude.
3. Conflict avoidance. If you’re always saying ‘yes’ or never standing up for yourself or the people around you, that signifies that you are a p^ssy. Nobody’s attracted to a weak man.
4. Being needy. Whether or not it’s with people, girls, or whatever, there’s nothing sexy about a guy who is always needy, pathetic, and not coming across as confident. Kissing people’s asses is not respectable.
5. Submissive body language. Communicate better by standing confidently, having good posture, looking people in the eye, smiling, and shaking hands. A weak shake makes you look low value. It’s all about confidence and how you carry yourself.
6. Sloppy appearance. Don’t look doughy because others will think you suck, look weak, and have low value. High-value men care for their bodies and have body fat under 15%. They do what they need to do to take care of their temple.
7. Messy dressed. Dressing is one of the quickest and easiest things you can do to elevate your perception. Dress with style and intention. Dress like a grown-up. Invest in a tailored, high-quality suit to make you look confident and successful. You can also dress the suit down by wearing the slacks with a polo shirt, which is not your daddy’s polo. Mine’s from Collars and Co. The fit, fabric, and construction instantly upgrade your shirt game.
8. Overcomplementing. Giving compliments is essential, demonstrates comfort in your skin, and makes others feel good about themselves. But there’s a fine line between giving compliments and overdoing it. A compliment must be authentic, so giving multiple complex compliments in one conversation makes you look low-value.
9. Being passive. If you’re never taking action, not making decisions (always saying you don’t care), you’re acting like a nice guy. You need to have an opinion and be concise and decisive with your actions to look high value automatically.
10. Having low standards. If you settle because you think you can’t get better or you’re worried that you’ll fail, then you don’t try, and you’re reducing your standards. Whether dating, getting a job, or pursuing your dreams, you must have high standards, translating into being viewed as a higher value. High-value men have high standards for carrying themselves and interacting with others.
11. The Martyr Syndrome. Nice guys act like victims to gain attention. They try to get a helping hand or have people do things for them. Do not act like a victim. You are strong, capable, and competent. Take ownership of your actions.
12. Not accepting responsibility. Low-value men deflect responsibility for their mistakes and say it’s not their fault. They’re always looking for an out and blaming other people. This automatically makes you look low value. High-value men accept responsibility for their mistakes and apologize when something is wrong. But they don’t overly apologize. Do not apologize for things that aren’t your fault because that will make you look weak and feel less confident.

You’re more attractive than you think if you are…

1. Catching people looking at you multiple times in public
2. Getting away with being weird or awkward (you get a pass)
3. Getting touched by women because women don’t touch people they aren’t attracted to
4. Giving you things or doing nice things for you
5. Compliments from other men. Make sure you don’t deflect it
6. Being told by your mom that you’re very handsome
7. Waking up with your c^ck in a random person’s mouth
8. Getting women looking at you and then shying away if you catch them. Also, if women are preening (hair flipping, touching their lips, covering their mouth, adjusting their clothing or glasses) or smiling at you.
9. Getting random women walking up and telling you that you’re handsome when you dress with purpose and wear clothing that you keep finding you get compliments on
10. Having both genders hit on you
11. Getting that kind of a smile with your service

1. Boobies. If you carry excess chest fat, you can minimize it by building muscle underneath to round out your chest. You can also lose body fat because a simple reduction of 10 pounds can be evident in the chest area. A compression garment underneath your clothing can also help. A tight undershirt or a tight muscle shirt are also options to camouflage and minimize boobies.
2. Weak jaw. Nobody wants chubby cheeks. You can grow a beard, even if it’s a slight 5:00 shadow. It’s an incredible way to strengthen your jaw and make your face look more angular. When you shave, the line on your cheek goes from your ear to your mouth to draw the eye down. Also, allow the hair on your chin to be slightly longer than on the sides of your cheeks. Taper this to draw the eye down. Ensure you don’t carve up underneath the neck fat area, which could make your jaw look weaker and worse. Reduce facial fat by losing weight, and drink a gallon of lemon water daily.
3. Abs and back fat. Back fat is the last fat you will lose, but it is one place where most guys start accumulating it. You can wear looser pants to avoid spilling over like a can of biscuits. Work out your abs, not just with crunches. Do weighted exercises to help build and develop muscles to create deeper separations, encouraging them to show even if your body fat goes above 7%. Another tip is to do cardio on an empty stomach first thing in the morning to dip into fat stores and use fatty acids. Follow a healthy, clean diet low in carbohydrates and high in protein to make a dramatic difference in how bloated and gassy you are. Take a pre- and pro- biotic, which I use Symbiotic Plus by Ritual. For 25% off your first order, use my link.
   
4. Puffy eyes and dark circles. These are super annoying and definitely unattractive. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, which you can get by taking melatonin. Having a dark room and cooling your room to around 65° are also helpful. You can also sleep naked and not look at your phone, which messes up your circadian rhythm. Also, use ice packs, ice rollers, or cold spoons to combat puffy and dark eyes.
5. Patchy beards. You could dye your beard to look thicker and more masculine. You can use Rogaine on your beard to stimulate the dormant follicles. You can also boost your testosterone by lifting weights and lowering your body fat.
6. Stature. Height is a confidence killer. Make sure you stand up straight, wear boots to add up to 3 in, and wear monochromatic outfits to enhance your visual height.
7. Big Al’s size. If you’re concerned about Big Al’s size, lose body fat because the fat pad at the base of your pubic bone will make your wiener look smaller. Take some natural supplements such as L-Arginine and L-Citruline will facilitate nitric oxide protection to relax your blood vessels and increase flow into your main-vein for a stronger and bigger Big A. You can also use a pump.

What separates a grown man from a little boy

1. Art. What you have hanging on your wall separates men from the boys. If you have nothing on your walls, that’s boring and basic and doesn’t show personality. But posters and cheap ugly stuff on the walls also make a lousy impression and look like a little kid. Invest in some higher-quality art. You don’t have to buy expensive original pieces, but you can find cool or different items that resonate with you. You can also elevate your space’s aesthetic with inexpensive blankets or some decorative pillows. These are a great way to affordably add another level and layer of complexity and detail to your place.
2. Proper bed. A proper bed is not a futon. A proper bed has a matching bedspread or comforter and sheets. You can never go around with white, which is clean and sexy. Also, keep an eye on the thread count.
3. Aesthetic bathroom. If guests are coming over, ensure your toilet is squeaky clean. Have some wet wipes available. Your towels should also be upgraded so they’re matched and nicer quality. Simple white is perfect. Your hair dryer and his breath should also be upgraded.
4. Organization. Have a leather caddy to drop items you use daily, such as your keys, wallet, watch, cufflinks, and jewelry. You don’t want to throw them on top of a dresser or end table.
5. Plants. Plants are an incredible way of adding freshness and greenery to your space. They also add a personality, indicating you are responsible and reliable.
6. Candles. Candles add ambiance when you have company over. It sets the mood and also allows relaxation and decompression. They are warm and inviting.
7. Speakers. Have the ability to produce background noise in your place. It also makes your place feel more high-end and luxurious. Having low-key background music when people come over makes your house less echoey and sets the mood.
8. Glasses and plates. I’m a big fan of clean, basic white dishes. Have matching plates, cutlery, and glasses (that way, you can serve a cocktail or glass of wine inside real glasses, not Solo cups). Know the difference between white and red wine glasses. You could also invest in some highball glasses for serving cocktails, which would set you apart from 99% of little boys.
9. Rugs. Rugs come in all different sizes, and the cool thing is that even if you have carpet, throwing a small rug on top of it is a great way to add texture and interest to your room. You can also add a pop of color.
10. Sofa or couch. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it needs to be clean. A decent couch is always a good idea because it’s comfortable and a cool place to chill daily. You can work from it, watch TV, make out, and get sexy. Make sure it’s not nasty, dirty, or filthy. If you have animals, make sure it repels moisture.

Critical lessons I learned

• Kindness is better than pretty. I learned this lesson the hard way. I dated a girl one time because she was hot. Unfortunately, she was horrible, and I realized this month after dating her. I also learned that it doesn’t matter how beautiful or spicy a woman is; if they are not a good person, you should not be with them.
• If you act like a pu$$y, you’re going to get fu@#ked. You won’t accomplish anything if you don’t stand up for yourself and grab life by the balls. Life will bend you over and give you the business. Life is not fair, and you’ll get out of it what you put into it.
• The world does not revolve around you. Fear of other people and what they think of us holds most of us back. But once you understand that everybody else is not thinking about you or concerned about your actions, you will be free to take life by the balls and squeeze. You’ll be allowed to make decisions based on what you want.
• How you react to adversity is more important than the act itself. A lot of times we are collateral damage in other people’s lives. Bad things and challenges in our lives add context and meaning. How you handle issues and react to them sets people apart. Put down your baggage so life gets beautiful. Use Better Help to get your life on track and to be happy. Get 10% off your first month of therapy and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
• Money does not buy happiness, but it makes life easier. If you constantly worry about money, taking money off the table improves life. You need to figure out a way not to be broke. Join me at the White Label Mpire for a supportive community, course info for starting your side hustle, coaching sessions, and more. Keep in mind that having money doesn’t mean you’ll always be happy, however. Don’t chase external validation. Practice gratitude.
• Your health is your most valuable asset. Without it, nothing else matters. Protect it. Don’t smoke weed, don’t drink excessively, and stop doing self-destructive things. Eat healthy foods, exercise, and invest in yourself.
• Invest your time wisely. If you do, you’ll get further ahead than your friends. Stop surfing social media and watching p***.
• Not all friends are good for you. Outgrowing friends is essential. Surround yourself with people who are uplifting and moving in the right direction. These people need to cheer you on when you’re successful as well. Make sure people are not holding you back from your dream. Don’t kiss other people’s asses, either.
• Respect yourself. You need to respect your time, body, and mind. Exercise daily, get 8 hours of sleep, and drink 120 oz of water. How you live will dictate where you end up, and it’s nobody else’s responsibility.
• Do better. If you’re unhappy or think you’re not where you need to be, put in the time and effort required to get there. Do the work. Remember that failure is a good thing. Embrace it as part of the process and understand that until you’re truly pushing yourself and sometimes failing, you’ll never know the next thing you should do. Failure is an opportunity to learn and pick yourself up. It’ll make you stronger.

Level up your attraction

1. Hair. Hair can make somebody go from forgettable to attractive to wow. If you have good hair, it’s an excellent way to get noticed by women. To have better hair, grow it a bit longer. Also, use less product. You don’t want a hard, crusty, crunchy, or wet-looking style.
2. Style. Elevate your style above other random dudes. If you dress well, it’s next level. Women definitely notice because most dudes dress boring and basic. Elevate your style by wearing a statement piece like a badass jacket. Also, amazing denim, nice shoes, and fitting clothing will all help elevate your aesthetic and turn heads. Sunglasses are a great equalizer for sexiness that helps to balance your face and make you look cool and mysterious. I recommend Clubmaster, Wayfair, or Aviator. Another tip is to wear bright colors to get noticed. Reds and bright blues will definitely turn heads. But I think the monochromatic darker looks are also a great way to look bad boy.
3. Skin. Amazing skin is one of those things that will turn heads.
4. Scent. Fragrance is one of the quickest and easiest ways to boost your self-esteem, confidence, and attraction level. When you smell good and look good, you’ll get more sexy action. Use ALPHA55off to get 55% off your first month at Scentbird. This month, I received Elysium Eau Intense by Roja, The Forward by Mind Games, and Pegasus by Parfums de Marly
5. Charisma. Charisma is charming, able to be good with people, smiling, and engaging. These soft skills can be worked on and developed. Also, be engaging. Asking questions, being genuinely interested in what other people tell you, and connecting with others will resonate with them. It is undeniably attractive if you laugh, smile, joke, and are friendly.
6. Confidence. Have good posture and smile. People notice how you walk and carry yourself. If you carry yourself confidently, you show an inner belief in yourself. Smiling will have people automatically notice you and turn their heads to look at you. They will want to date you, give you jobs, make out with you, and more.
7. Good body. The majority of dudes are fat and sloppy, but if you take care of yourself and wear clothing that fits your body, you’ll turn heads.
8. Beard. If you want to turn heads, grow a beard automatically. You will look more rugged and confident. Simultaneously, it will help strengthen your jaw.
9. Tattoos. Tattoos are sexy and make you look like a bad boy. But they can make you look like a colossal dumbass or dork depending.
10. Being a man. Being resilient, strong, caring, and confident in a world full of betas will win over people. Be strong, stoic, and confident.

• Keep in mind that I’m not a health nut weirdo. I don’t think that everything is going to give you cancer. I also don’t believe alkalized water can cure everything that ails you. Your body and health are your most valuable assets, and I would optimize health instead of going to the doctor for medication.
• Our health system is also broken. BUT, if something is wrong with you, go to the doctor immediately.
• You should also perform preventative maintenance, such as getting blood work done to have a baseline. It’s simple. It doesn’t matter how old you are, how good you feel, or how amazing you look; you need blood work done. It’s like looking under the hood, so to speak. You can have those markers checked to see what has changed.

Know what’s going on with your body.

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Pay attention to these warning signs that your body is not as healthy as it needs to be.

1. Mouth issues. (a) Bad breath could mean that you have reflux, which could lead to esophageal cancer. (b) Brittle teeth. This is a sign you aren’t getting the micronutrients you need. (c) Bleeding gums. This is a sign of issues with your gums and deficiency in certain micronutrients.
2. Odd eye colors. (a) Red eyes could mean allergies, not getting enough sleep, or high blood pressure, which could lead to heart attack or stroke. (b) The whites of your eyes turning to yellow color could mean liver issues. You could take a holistic approach to help repair your liver.
3. Changes with Big Al & the Twins. (a) Smaller nuts. If the Twins feel like they’re getting smaller, this could be a sign of dropping testosterone levels. (b) Smaller load. When you shoot a load, if it’s smaller, this could be an indicator that your testosterone has dropped. (c) Softer big owl. This is another sign that your testosterone level could be low.
4. Lethargy. This could also be a sign that your testosterone level has dropped too low.
5. Anger, hostility, or pissed off all the time. Even if life is stressful, you need to address these feelings.
6. Hair challenges. (a) Brittle hair and hair breakage are signs of micronutrient deficiency. (b) Losing hair. Any hair loss could be another sign of testosterone levels not being where they should be. It could also be an issue with micronutrients.
7. Fat & muscle challenges. (a) Gynecomastia is a sign of low testosterone or weight gain. (b) Love handles are another sign of low testosterone. (c) Difficulty building muscle. If you have difficulty packing on muscle or have low muscle mass, this could be a testosterone warning sign.
8. Tired, sluggish, not sleeping well. If you also don’t want to get frisky, this is another warning sign up to testosterone level.
9. Distended stomach. If this is not from fat, something could be going on with your gut health.
10. Odd-looking deuces. If it’s black, it means you’re bleeding. If it’s bloody, you could have hemorrhoids or something else like an ulcer. If your deuces are hard, you may need more fiber. If they are too liquid, that’s not normal.
11. Weight gain. If you’re gaining weight, something’s going on with your body.
12. Funky nails. If your nails are yellow or discolored, have white specks, or are brittle & cracking, something is happening at the micronutrient level. 

• Join a gym. I want to stay in shape because the gym helps my body, mind, and confidence. But also, spicy senoritas are all over the gym. I would also join a yoga studio.
• Get a haircut by a woman. I will go to a salon and have a woman stylist cut my hair. I am surrounded by women stylists every day, and they are always looking for a good man. I would choose a higher-end salon with higher quality caliber stylists. These salons may be more pricey, but a different level of women will surround you. Many stylists are single, but they also have single clients and friends. It’s a great place to network and also get your hair done.
• Fill your social calendar. I would pack my social calendar full, including going out on weekends, finding out what my friends are doing, and not being afraid to go to a restaurant or bar alone. Talk to the bartender and start to network, make some mingle, and get social.
• Talk to everyone. I would give compliments and work on my social skills regarding small talk. Become comfortable making random conversations with random people, so when you see somebody you’re interested in, you can pull the trigger and not stumble on your words. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.
• Grab the dating kit. I would hit the link and grab this Pete & Pedro dating deal. Get 1 Cologne, FREE Fresh Deodorant, and FREE Fresh Ball Powder for $50 (retails $84). Smell amazing!
• Clean your living spaces. I would clean my car, my house, and my room. Your place needs to smell good and be clean.
• Update your social media. Ensure all bad pictures are gone, and systematically orchestrate a more seductive social media presence. Choose photographs that accentuate your positive features and are more provocative. Post all the fun things you’re going out and doing, which will send a psychological message that you are entertaining and somebody to be with.
• Stop watching p***. P”** will rob you of your motivation. You’ll become more horny and want to get more action.
• Take a deep dive into your job, career, or side hustle. Success is attractive. You can also change your job, where you are exposed to different people, including women, and your environment has changed. Join me in the White Label Mpire Community for a supportive, interactive, and informative environment to help build your side hustle.
• Be the best version of yourself. Focus on your mind. Perhaps go to therapy and deal with issues and baggage. Surround yourself with people that love you and support you. Make sure the people around you are uplifting.
• Volunteer. Look for opportunities to help other people. You can do this on the weekends, and it feels incredible to give back.

Keep in mind the world does not revolve around you. As soon as you understand this, you’ll free yourself from the pressure of feeling like everybody is judging you. When you want to do something different, take the chance.

Also, do not allow fear of what others are thinking about you to hold you back. They’re not thinking about you as much as you think they are. They are too worried about their own issues and insecurities. Take your shot and do what you’ve wanted to because you only have one shot at this life. Never apologize for living your dream.

1. A healthy diet. If you want to eat healthy, it doesn’t matter if it makes others uncomfortable. If you choose to eat clean and healthy, and they don’t, you don’t have to apologize. Further, if people who are drinking want to criticize you for not drinking, you may want to not hang out with them. Drinking can be self-destructive. Also, drunk people are super annoying. You don’t have to apologize for not drinking.
2. Success. You should be proud of yourself for success but don’t have to apologize or play it down. This doesn’t mean to boast or brag, but you don’t need to make an excuse for your success.
3. Who you love. You don’t need to apologize for who you love or where you stick your weiner. You should not feel wrong for loving whoever you want to love, whether it’s a man, a woman, an older woman, or a big-ass woman. Embrace it.
4. Your choices. Do not let other people’s opinions affect your choices. You have one life, and you make the best decisions for you. Choose how you live now.
5. Looking amazing. Never apologize for wanting to look amazing, dressing well, having fantastic hair, and spending time taking care of yourself. I take care of my face through a few steps. Tiege Hanley uncomplicatedly has them all, including face wash, exfoliating, and moisturizing twice a day.
6. Your opinion and saying ‘no’. Never apologize for your opinion unless you find out it was wrong or if it was a mistake. Nothing is more confident than when you own a mistake or come back and say that you are sorry. Also, you should never apologize for saying no. You should not be a people pleaser and say yes to everything. You need to stand up for yourself and not be a nice guy.
7. Changing. Whether you change your hair, facial hair, style, job, career, partner, or whatever, never apologize for growing or doing something different. Make sure you step out of the box because a box is constricting and constraining. Don’t worry about what other people think; try new things.

1. Give compliments. Complimenting people will make them feel great about themselves and have them look at you as more attractive and confident. Insecure or arrogant people do not compliment others because they are too busy trying to get attention for themselves.
2. Grow a beard. You will look sexier and feel more confident. It will help strengthen a jawline, and spicy senoritas are drawn to men with beards.
3. Stand up straight. Walk like you mean it. Non-verbal communication changes you from the outside in. Seeing somebody walking confidently automatically sends a message that they are not someone to mess with.
4. Make eye contact. Eye contact will instantly make you look more confident and feel more powerful. If you are not afraid to look somebody in the eye, it sends the message that you are confident. Combined with a smile and a firm handshake, you are the man to be taken seriously.
5. Smile. Get into the habit of smiling at other people to look friendlier, more engaging, and more confident.
6. Dress better. People notice when you are dressing one level above everyone else. You will appear more attractive and more confident. Pay attention to your style because it’s critical. Dress with intention and purpose.
7. Maintain grooming. You automatically transcend to the lurking inner beast if you have a white smile, well-maintained facial hair, and clean & neat eyebrows. 
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9. Develop financial success. Set a budget. Know how much money is coming in and going out, and fix imbalances. Don’t buy crap, and make sure you’re not impulse buying. Develop financial freedom by pushing down the urge to buy something immediately.
10. Wear boots. Boots make you taller, and they’re stylish. You can also wear a higher hairstyle to make you look taller.
11. Wear clothing that fits. Clothing that fits your body will make you look visually taller. Dark colors will make you look thinner and more muscular.
12. Take care of your temple. Engage in a good diet and fitness. Working out and caring for your body will make you feel amazing and more confident. Better diet decisions will also make you look better naked, automatically making you feel more confident.

That said, I want to talk more about friendship, specifically people you should avoid. The inspiration for this video came from my White Label Mpire Community, where the support, encouragement, and group are amazing. Everybody is cheering each other and uplifting everybody. It’s so inspiring. These are the people you need to surround yourself with.

I met Antonio Centeno under similar circumstances. Being an entrepreneur is a lonely road, and I wasn’t surrounded by other people who understood what I was going through. When I met Antonio, he showed me we were not each other’s competition and that we could help each other. Everything started to get better.

You’ll never achieve what you could if you surround yourself with people who bring you down and hold you back. These people will be holding you down. You should avoid negative people at all costs. Who you surround yourself with will dictate where you end up in life. If you surround yourself with losers or people who have poor character, you will be held back. 

When you shed the deadweight and outgrow these people, you can surround yourself with uplifting and amazing people who are your friends and support you. These people will cheer you on when you’re successful and help you achieve greatness.

Here’s the deadweight you should shed: 

1. Narcissists. These people are only concerned about themselves. They think the world revolves around them, and there’s no room for them to love or respect others.
2. Cheaters. Cheaters’ behavior can manifest in different ways. A lot of times, they’re going to use you as an excuse. Also, do you want to surround yourself with someone unwilling to do the hard work? It’s not acceptable to cheat or mess around.
3. Pessimists. They see the worst and everything and are always blaming and complaining and bitching. They feel that life is out of their control — they are enemy vampires who suck the life out of everything. They will rob you of your positive energy bandwidth.
4. Losers. This broad term refers to those who are not motivated and are okay with being average. You may have grown up with some of these people, and you must outgrow them because of their self-destructive nature and loser mindset.
5. Gossipers. They’re always talking crap behind people’s backs.
6. Liars. You may catch someone in ‘insignificant’ white lies, but if somebody’s lying to you, it means they don’t respect you or something’s happening with them. Little white lies could potentially become significant big things.
7. Untrustworthy. If you don’t trust somebody around money or your woman, it’s not okay. It may not have happened yet, but it will.
8. Jealous or competitive. Someone who’s super jealous or is not happy for you when you achieve, or if they’re always trying to compete with you, they do not want to grow together with you.
9. Assholes. This person is always a jerk to others. They’re also mean to their girlfriends, servers, or their parents. They are nasty.
10. Unreliable. These people do not adhere to what they say they will do. They are not men of their word and will cancel plans last minute or make excuses not to do things.
11. Energy vampires. These people always have problems and issues. When you give them advice, they don’t take it. They will suck the life out of you.
12. Don’t take ownership of their actions. These people don’t take responsibility and play the blame game. When they make a mistake, they don’t own it.
13. Dumb. These people do not seek knowledge, and they do not look at other people’s opinions. They are one-dimensional and closed-minded. Everything is black and white. Life has a lot of gray areas, so you need to be around people who can constructively think and analyze situations. If someone is rigid and regimented in their belief or ideology, you must eliminate them.
14. Lacking of integrity. If somebody in your life robs, cheats, and isn’t a good person, they should not be your friend. Surround yourself with those who love and support you. You need quality people that are moving in the right direction.

Factors that make men attractive at a deeper level

1. Having humility. If you’re humble with a modest view of your importance, this is incredibly sexy. In a world where everybody is boasting about how amazing they are and how they’re all kicking ass, low-key humble is sexy.
2. Standing up for yourself. If you’re not a people pleaser or a puss, you’re automatically more attractive. People will automatically respect you more if you have principles and stand up for them.
3. Doing nice things. Doing for others boosts your self-esteem and confidence while making you look good. When we see people doing things nice for others, we automatically think the person is more attractive.
4. Having discipline. Instant gratification is rampant. Having discipline and the ability to focus when things aren’t fun or exciting will automatically make you more attractive. It also makes you more productive.
5. Being financially successful. Women will be more prone to date a financially stable man with potential than one who isn’t but is better looking. Make sure that you are financially successful. Get yourself a side hustle by checking out the White Label Mpire Community.
6. Letting your ego go. You need to learn from people who are better than you. Accept help from others who are better than you and know more than you. You will grow professionally and personally and become more attractive because you’ve expanded your knowledge base.
7. Being even-tempered. Don’t be a mess and get mad when you can stay calm and cool under pressure, making you automatically more attractive. When you freak out and get emotional, such as in anger, you’ve allowed your emotions to rule your actions. You aren’t thinking things through clearly and calmly. You’ll make better decisions by calming yourself and thinking things through before taking action. You will also be viewed as more attractive.
8. Talking to strangers. Making conversation is a skill. Being able to meet and engage with people and take it deeper makes you more attractive because you’re open and vulnerable. Ensure you drop the act and not pretend you’re something you’re not. Being real makes you more attractive because you’re authentic. Being authentic makes people feel more special, and your attraction level is boosted when you’re interested in others.
9. Having manners. Saying yes ma’am, yes sir, and thank you is easy to do and will automatically make you respected. You indicate that you value what people have said or did. Make sure you open the door for others, and if the door is open for you, make sure you say thank you.
10. Being loyal and faithful. Don’t flirt, and don’t take the bait. Automatically, you will be the sexiest dude in the room.

If you can learn to read the signs, you will get more action. Learn to read the signs and understand that you are the prize. You’ll have more opportunities, but don’t lead her on if you have a significant other.

Signs she wants a piece of you

1. Overuse of emojis. If you’re texting with a woman and she sends a lot of emojis, that is code for wanting a piece of you.
2. Able to read your mood. If she can read your mood and call you on it, this is a sign she’s very perceptive and knows what’s going on with you. This means she’s interested in you more than a friend. Also, she’s into you if she supports you and your goals. This one often flies under the radar, but if she’s encouraging, uplifting, and supportive, she wants you.
3. Eye contact. If she’s staring or looking at you hard, this is a sign she likes you. If you look up and she looks away quickly, that’s also a sign she is staring at you and, thus, likes you.
4. Touching. You may think she accidentally grazed you, but it’s not accidental. If she’s touching you on the shoulder or hand or if she accidentally grazes your thigh, it’s not by accident. She did it on purpose because she’s all up in your business. Body language proximity is the key here. She is invading your space often, meaning she’s interested in you.
5. Complimenting. If she compliments you on anything, whether it’s your hair, looks, shirt, or scent, she’s interested.
6. Touching her hair. If she’s preening, she wants you. This is not an accident if she’s fidgeting with her clothes and ensuring you notice.
7. Thinking you’re funny. If she’s laughing and thinking you’re funny, you’re not. She is just into you.
8. Acting mad or pissed off. This means she likes you a lot. Also, the silent treatment is code that you haven’t noticed how much she likes you. They may ignore you if they want you to notice them. You may ask what’s wrong, and they’ll say nothing. If they’re acting a bit cold or distant, this is a sign she likes you.

What if she rejects you?

If a woman ignores or rejects you, who cares. Screw her. Plenty of spicy fish are in the sea, and if somebody’s not interested in you for whatever reason, you must remember you are the prize.

Work on yourself, build yourself into the man you envision yourself as. Take care of yourself and your body. Do not do drugs or drink excessively. Don’t have self-sabotage or do self-destructive things. Dress better, up your grooming game, and engage with people. Make new friends and work towards your dream. If you still need to have a side hustle, develop one. Now is the best time to start a business. Join me in my White Label Mpire Community where the magic is happening, and you can take my blueprint and start making money for yourself.

Bad habits you need to break.

1. Hanging out with losers. If you’re ready to level up your life, you must surround yourself with higher-quality people. It’s okay to outgrow people, which this step is a struggle for many men. You need to break away from these people and break the cycle.
2. Not having a clear and defined goal. You need to have a direction — if you’re unsure of where you’re going in life, you must create a plan. That plan will change and adjust as you start your journey, but you must have a North Star.
3. Not being able to communicate appropriately. If you’re using filler words or cursing excessively, you need to master communication. You should also master texting and speaking on the phone effectively.
4. Being obsessive about technology consumption. If you spend a lot of time on devices, you’re wasting time. It also destroys dopamine levels. You get a shot of dopamine every time you’re surfing porn or spanking Big Al. This dopamine release will make you lazy and waste time — and as you know, time is your most valuable resource.
5. Neglecting your health. It doesn’t take a whole lot of effort to be healthier. Implement a few basic things, such as 30 minutes of lifting + cardio + flexibility, drinking 120 oz of water daily, and eating healthier. Use AG1 for your micronutrients.
6. Not getting enough sleep. If you do not sleep enough, you won’t look good, feel good, or be optimal.
7. Sleeping around. You could potentially get somebody pregnant, and then you’ll have a kid when you’re not ready to. This will impact your ability to get ahead in life. You also could potentially get an STD. Make sure you wrap that rascal.
8. Dressing like crap. When you take pride in your appearance, you will feel better about yourself, and others will respect you. You have three seconds to make an impression. If that impression is bad because your style sucks, you’re going to have to work exponentially harder to prove yourself.
9. Projecting a poor image on social media. Don’t post things that are not respectable and are irresponsible. You don’t want to shoot yourself in the foot just because you think it’s funny to post pictures of you doing something stupid. These posts could impact your dating, potential relationships, employment, and more.
10. Procrastinating. Do not wait for perfect timing because it doesn’t exist. Take action, and don’t be afraid of doing hard work. Hard work is essential and critical to success. But this does not mean being a people pleaser. Feel free to have an opinion, but don’t be a dummy. Make sure you’re educating yourself and seeking knowledge. You will stagnate and not progress if you do not learn something new daily.

In my 30s, I decided it was time to get my sh!t together. I felt like if I kept going down the road that I was on, I wasn’t going to be around in my 40s — and I didn’t want to die. I also would not be happy, healthy, and successful. That said, I want to share some of the steps I took to get my life together.

Steps I took to turn my life around

1. Stopped drinking & tobacco. I stopped drinking, but I also stopped nicotine. I loved chewing tobacco, but I was embarrassed and tried to hide it. It was wildly addictive, and I was worried I was going to get mouth cancer. I didn’t have the willpower to quit, but when I stopped drinking, I stopped using nicotine because drinking was one of the triggers.
2. Filed for bankruptcy. I was trying to make a business work using my credit cards to pay the staff. I had over half a million dollars worth of debt when the business went down. After filing for bankruptcy, my philosophy was that I would never spend if I couldn’t afford to pay cash, and I swore that I would never get into debt again.
3. Found a new direction. In my 20s, all I wanted to do was own a fitness center, but as I moved into my 30s, I realized I had to give up that dream. We often chase something longer than we should, which is not good because time is our most valuable asset.
4. Forgive myself. I forgave myself for not being perfect and for my mistakes in my 20s. I also forgave others and decided I wanted to be happy. If you’re sick and tired of letting your past hold you back, or you’re not feeling the way that you should feel, you need to seek help. One of the reasons I love therapy so much, which I’ve used throughout different phases and points in my life, is my life leveling up as a result. You deserve to be happy! Go to Better Help for 10% off your first month of therapy and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
5. Took action. Instead of thinking and planning, I took action. I found the path I ended up taking with image consulting and my YouTube channel because I was willing to take action. I didn’t allow fear of the unknown or failure to get in my way. One action will lead to another action.
6. Found a good partner. I found a good woman, and I locked it down. Finding my wife was one of the pivotal moments of my life when everything started to get better and scale. I would have never been successful if I stayed single because I spent too much time and energy worrying about sex, women, and so forth. Getting that off the table allowed me to be more creative and focused.
7. Found better friends. When I quit drinking, I stopped hanging out with some of the people that I was hanging out with and partying. I ended up networking, and I found my tribe.
8. Got life moving in the right direction. In my 30s, I took extreme ownership of my life, direction, and happiness. We often blame other people or think issues and challenges are someone else’s fault. When you accept that your destiny is your responsibility and nobody is coming to save you, you’ll be successful and move forward faster. You’ll be happier, more self-confident, and more self-assured.